This is my life...
STBX picked up DS11 schedule 2 $220 meds from the pharmacy without permission, authorization or even telling me he was going to (& he had even sent me junk texts right before he picked them up!). I had been asking for 2 WEEKS if he was going to pay his 1/2 & that DS11 meds were nearly out or out altogether. Crickets. So my mother sent $ and I just dropped off the scrip to get the meds on my way out later.
Then as I am getting ready to go to my weekly girls pool tournament, I suddenly get a text from him saying "I have DS11's meds". Um...What??? Ok...drop them here (I am a couple minutes from the pharmacy). Nope. He's home. What? Fine...meet me somewhere ( ie: police station). Nope. Drop them with a 3rd party we both know & trust. Nope. I will have a 3rd party pick them up. Nope. He gave me a scary, crazed, rambling, psycho-jibberish text bomb runaround refusing to give them to me...playing his games!
He held the meds hostage! I called the police (small town...they ALL know whats going on. Cop I spoke to was the one who tackled him to the ground last Sept for the DV arrest. The police will not participate as its a civil issue! Um...isnt this stealing a narcotic? I called the pharmacy & asked for their help...nothing they could do.
4 HOURS after he picked up the meds....
Finally...the ransom. STBX is demanding I come to his place or nothing! I tell him NO. He asks WHY NOT? Because you will kill me! That is his demand. I am hysterical. WHO DOES THIS??? My son cannot attend school without his meds!
My good friend who has lived in this small town all his life called the police & demanded a poluce escort to accompany me to get meds. He told them it was Child Endangerment to withhold meds risking my sons well-being. They agreed.
5-1/2 HOURS later I pulled up in front of STBX with my girlfriends car (who knows if he had something planned for mine). I rolled down the passenger window & he handed the bag to me. I reached for it and he pulled it away. Wtf? He handed it to me again. I grabbed it, rolled up the window & drove off. (All the while the police sitting down the street with headlight shining towards me-I was to flash my lights if there was trouble).
I have meds. He paid (sort of). He will want to take my half out of the support (he isnt paying) but he is refusing to send me a copy of the receipt he said he would send.
1. Is he that crazy or was this an insane stunt to keep me from going to the girls pool tournament?
2. Who does this to their child? Am I over-reacting?
3. What would a judge say to this stunt?
4. He was supposed to have his first 2 days requested visitation in a month the next night. I messaged my victim advocate & she said not to deny the visit. But isnt this crazy behavior enough to warrant supervised visits? (Not that I want that....I am not thinking clearly to know).
5. I immediately went to pharmacy next day, told them what happened & put a major block on him EVER picking up DS11's meds again (I DID find a way that STBX can still pay for them though.
6. Ironically...pharmacist is boy scout leader & STBX just went from cub scout leader to asst boy scout leader. Pharmacist is responsible & respectable man who does know the whole story (maybe STBX version of it).
OH...And to furthet vent....
I quit asking STBX when he wanted visitation. I told him it was up to him to ask (I have sole physical custody & he has generous visitation). I also told him I needed 1 weeks notice (I think thats more than reasonable). So I got a request on Sunday for "any day that week except the weekend". LoL. I guess he doesnt know what a week is. I let him have Thursday after school until 9am Saturday.
So...that came & went & he has not requested any other visitation. Its Spring Break now. I mentioned it in a text (that this week was Spring Break). He started going off on how I didnt tell him, that the school doesnt let him know anything, and that he got an organization he is involved in to donate $250 to a special school program and he hasnt been thanked by the teacher! Mind you...he had just seen his son for 2 days and he didnt know it is spring break? I told him he needed to do his own due diligence.
So here's the clencher....tonight is the scout meeting and just last week he was making a point that HE IS IN CHARGE OF SCOUTS. So last night I told him he needs to pick up & drop off our son for the meeting (we live 5 minutes apart) - that I cannot drive him in my car as my brakes are bad (grinding) & I cannot afford to fix them seeing as he has only paid $100 in the last 6 months toward CS (when he agreed to $300/mo.)
His reply....I didnt give him 1 weeks advance notice that he would need to transport DS11 to scouts and I am setting a "precedent" that 1 weeks notice is not necessary!!! Wtf? I told him this was not visitation but a weekly meeting. If he didnt give DS11 a ride than DS11 wouldnt be able to go. Or he cld give me $ to fix the brakes (STBX thinks support is just for food).
Btw...I condensed this. Just the scout thing alone was 50 texts because of his games.
Am I crazy?
Is this normal?
We never settled the scout transport thing last night so this morning I texted him 5 VERY specific questions:
Please let me know by 9am-no later (because you did not answer yesterday when I asked):
1. Are you picking up & dropping off DS11 for scouts tonight?
2.What specific time will you pick him up here?
3. What specific time will you drop him off? (When its over is not an acceptible answer).
4. Will you be bringing child support or a gift card as discussed? Tonight? Ever?
5. Confirming that you still have not requested any visitation.
He answered the pick up & drop off times and said "when is good for visitation"?
I texted back that his message was incomplete....to cut & paste the question & answer below them if that would help...and answering with a question was unacceptible.
THERE IS NO REASONING WITH THIS __________!
Is this how it is IRL?
Is he this stupid? Or crazy?
Is he trying to get me to give up?