I really need help with a plan. I canít afford to retain a lawyer upfront and was hoping to do the initial filing through a paralegal or legal service to at least get the ball rolling, and retain a lawyer if he really does fight me. I donít know how to split our finances and our bills, as they are very month to month out of one shared checking account. And, I donít know if I can find a place and just move my kids, without suffering from backlash from taking them from their ďhomeĒ. He told me he will not allow me to remove them from their home.
[This message edited by differentNow at 11:05 AM, April 15th (Tuesday)]
I would also carry a recorder around not only to document his behavior but for protection. He is driven by anger and who knows what claims he may start making against you.
I'm sorry you are faced with this...in front of the kids no less!
~Feel your emotions, but control your behavior~ Unknown
You need to learn about the father's rights movement and amass a large amount of legal knowledge ASAP, or you're facing losing your children. You need to learn about how fathers alienate children from their mothers. You need to legally protect yourself and your access to the children ASAP.
I urge you to contact a Domestic Violence center in your area immediately. No, not to move there. However, they should have connections to services & professionals who can help you.
Second, I would take the advice of the others and get educated in the legal system real fast. Knowing what your rights are and how to proceed are the best ways in making a plan. Also follow the other's advice and get some of this on tape. A recording is the best way to protect yourself against the accusations that may be coming your way.
Best of luck. I know it sucks to be here, but you can make it through.