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User Topic: Healing and Restoring Intimacy
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Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You walked in on the OM doing your wife. Give yourself some credit

I fervently agree; what you went through was soul-destroying. If I had experienced what you endured i would need a truck full of anti-depressants just to keep going.

I can understand you wanting to stay together so as to give the best to your children. Your WW is going to have to step up and display some decency and humanity, or this marriage will incrementally decay and other affairs will probably take place.

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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am by far no expert, it's been a year since DDAY for me and I can tell you I still cannot be intimate with my H. Everytime I try I see the images of all his affairs. 1 after another detailed images. There is nothing ever going to be sacred between us. You will go through a cycle of emotions that play like it's groundhog day over and over. I am no where close to being healed. I agree that you should take a step back and process the situation. I just joined this site and glad I found it. I hope the best for you. Just please do not make rash decisions about anything until you gone through cycles of different emotions.

BS: 48 Me
WH: 46 him
DD 17 Ours
DS 23 Mine

DDAY 4/17/2013 my father's anniversary death date.
2013 to present: TT big time
9 more women PAs all of our 17 years of marriage. Never had a clue until TT in the last year. Showe

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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, April 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think I could truly express how much I appreciate the support SI provides at such a difficult time.

Kenny 55, yes I am in IC and we are in MC.

Norabird, I actually ordered that book for her, should be here Monday. And when I give it to her,my expectation will be that she reads it immediately.

Doggiediva, appreciate your thoughts, that is very much my take, and communicating with me around intimacy is something my wife has stuggled with in the past that we are hoping to address in counseling. Why she could go to this sexual place within the affair, but not within the love and stability of our marriage will need to be addressed.

appreciate each and every one of you

BS me 41
WW 42
Married 11 years
R for now I guess
DD 9 & DS 8
DDay 2 (PA) - March 3rd, 2014
DDay 1 (EA) - July 2nd, 2011

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