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User Topic: No matter the pain... what I just read
Faithful w/Love
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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

is nothing of what Phoenix is going through.
Through my pain and sorrow, I could not imagine losing a child or a sibling.

I am blessed to have my children and sibling. I am going to focus on that more. It just dawned on me after reading about poor phoenix, how much I may be over looking because of my sorrow. But, to have and be able to touch and feel my kids is the best blessing in the world. Life is to short for all this drama that was given to me for no reason, but I chose to fight for it when it was already gone. Phoenix didn't have a choice of her beloved child, he was just taken without her getting to hold him or feel his touch. I am blessed and I will hold that close to my heart more.

Life is not as bad as it could be.

What a wake up call for me to count my blessings even more not what is happening that is bad.


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)37
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

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somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

..^^^^^^ THIS...

..I can't imagine there being any greater pain than that being endured by Phoenix and her family at this time..

..my troubles pale in comparison..

..prayers sent to Phoenix and her family.

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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dmari
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Helpless  Posted: 2:04 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I am speechless. We all need to lift Phoenix1 and her family up in our thoughts and keep them in our hearts. I just can't even wrap my brain around her losses. It is just too much for one person to carry.


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree. This woman has lost enough. It's too much. Way too much.


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dear God...I hadn't ventured into off topic for a while...had no idea. My heart absolutely breaks for this woman. It is beautiful to see all the prayers and compassion sent her way, but damn, no one should have to go through all this in a lifetime, let alone such a short time.


"Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn." - C.S. Lewis

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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree Madeofscares,
I just keep feeling her pain today. I could not imagine losing a child. Too much is right!


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)37
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Amen

sunandmoon


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jackie89
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Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Faithful - good post, to remind us what is REALLY important in our lives.

I can't even imagine Phoenix's pain at this very moment.


Separated - working on R

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ThisHell
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Default  Posted: 10:50 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are so right Faithful. It is very easy to be bogged down by our trials. But oh how my heart breaks for her reading this. I had no idea...

We are all so blessed every day in some way. I just cannot imagine. Tonight my prayers will be very full.


Me:BW, 34/Him:BH, 34/ 3 boys, 5,8,12
4ddays, now Divorced
We are not in Kansas anymore

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Unagie
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Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My heart absolutely bleeds for her. The tragedy of her brother and sister in law, her nieces behaviors and it lifted my spirits to see how supportive her son was being. It absolutely broke my heart to find out what happened to him. I would lose it if I lost my brother let alone to lose a child as well. I pray for her every day.


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No longer together

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Stop allowing people to hurt you, because you don't love you enough to walk away.


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Default  Posted: 11:16 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Absolutely. It's unimaginable!

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Default  Posted: 1:52 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're right, of course, Faithful.

I was watching before her son was missing and felt great empathy (I lost a sibling suddenly, unexpectedly) and wished I could help - and then the absolutely unfathomable happened.

Thanks for bringing it out of OT so others who treasure her but don't frequent that forum can send their comfort, such as any of it is.


It is the gut-wrenching, down-to-your-soul honesty that helps so much. ~paraphrased from CancunCrushed
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Default  Posted: 3:22 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have lost a child the pain in unimaginable.

But to lose so many family members in such a short period of time if heart wrenching.

Thinking of you ((((Phoenix))))


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

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Default  Posted: 3:44 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That he was such a tremendous young man makes the loss all the more painful. It is fitting that in his passing he has inspired us to hold our children tight and remind us of the blessings in our lives. He continues to be a blessing - even in this time of unfathomable grief.


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Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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Default  Posted: 4:55 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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I can't imagine there being any greater pain than that being endured by Phoenix and her family at this time..

This x 1000

I am giving extra cuddles today


Is the f*cking you're getting, worth the f*cking you're getting?

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Tawnee1969
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Default  Posted: 4:55 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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I can't imagine there being any greater pain than that being endured by Phoenix and her family at this time..

This x 1000

I am giving extra cuddles today


Is the f*cking you're getting, worth the f*cking you're getting?

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