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User Topic: Bad day - a vent
TrustedHer
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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know people have bigger problems. But jeez, could I catch a break?

Ran a ton of errands today. Picked up my tax return, I'm getting a big refund. Yay!

Got a call from the contractor fixing my house. A delivery truck leaving my house collapsed the bridge.

Which is the only access to my house.

Which means the closest I can get my truck to my house is about 50 yards away.

Which means I have to call even more contractors to fix my bridge.

Which, it turns out, means that my dam, of which the bridge is a part, is old, decrepit, and in need of major repairs.

Like, $50,000 dollars in repairs.

Kinda takes the joy out of that big tax refund.

And I immediately went there.

If I had had a loving, faithful wife, who cared about me and about maintaining our home, then I would have been able to do the maintenance around the farm that needed to be done. I had been looking for a contractor to fix my then-small problem with the dam during what turned out to be her affair period. But with all the other farm maintenance I was doing alone, and then the trauma of D-Day, all that went out the window.

So yes, I blame her for the problem I have today.

The collapsed bridge means that the restoration work on my home is on hold until I get a temporary fix in place. Which means I need to pay for a temporary fix, then pay again for a permanent fix.

But I'm unemployed, living off the money I saved for retirement as it is.

FML.


Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

Posts: 5181 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((TH))))) Ugh. $50,000 is INSANE. I'm so sorry.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((Trustedher)))))))


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5264 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry man, wish I could do something to help.

I know people have bigger problems. But jeez, could I catch a break?

You could always argue someone somewhere always has it worse, but it doesn't mean your problem is any less for you. You do deserve a break. Sorry you're having another setback.


The wound is the place where the Light enters you. ― Rumi

Posts: 1225 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Texas
SpecialK
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Default  Posted: 7:36 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does the delivery company have insurance? They destroyed it after all....

Posts: 310 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Florida
devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh TH, I so totally get it. I've been looking for that break too. We are in the same place, my friend.

Is there any way to take a breath? Are you sure it needs to be $50,000??? Yikes! Maybe someone (a contractor) has a different idea on how to fix it and save you some cash?

I wish I could help you. That really sucks.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5524 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TH, have you ever seen the movie "Money Pit" with Tom Hanks? I just had a vision of your upstairs tub (if there is one) crash and you laughing like an idiot. I don't mean to make light. I walked away from a 104 year old house. I've been through the wars. I'm just at a "fuck it" place in my life. Everything is funny.

Best wishes getting it taken care of. I know it sucks, but at some point screw it. If we couldn't laugh we just would go insane.


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 773 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
BAB61
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Default  Posted: 12:02 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That sucks ... sorry to hear, is there any way insurance would cover the bridge? It is access to your house after all.


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S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
norabird
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Default  Posted: 12:04 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ick! (((((TrustedHer)))))

I'm so sorry. I agree, maybe another estimate will be lower?


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4196 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
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