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User Topic: Xwh and Ow are a perfect match
gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Earlier this month my dday anniversary rolled past. I did okay with it. I'm busy, happy, planning for my vacation, making new friends, and even going on a date tonight.

A couple of days ago I did something I haven't done in awhile. I googled OW's name. She has a very unusual name so literally everything that comes up in a search is for her, specifically. I did this a lot after dday, but not for a long time now. The google search reveals that she was arrested back in February for 6 counts of parole violation. I assume this relates back to her conviction for embezzling many thousands of dollars from a former employer, an older gentleman she worked for for 21 years. She did time in jail for this. I don't know what the conditions of her parole are, but apparently she's been disregarding them.

Then as I'm texting later with my (x)stepdaughter about a birthday party that was taking place, she reveals that OW "can't drive". XWH has to drive her everywhere, including to and from work. I don't know if she lost her license or what. When I knew her she had a car and drove no problem. In any case, XWH must love that hassle.

The other thing I did was look at XWH's facebook page. The whole thing, as he has it fairly open. I've had him blocked and haven't done this in a very long time. It was like looking at a stranger's page. Endless posts about sports stats, which he HATES. Posts about country music, which he HATES. Even posts about "...blah blah blah my beautiful girl blah..." just seem so fake and desperate. Some very unflattering selfies, where he clearly thinks he looks hot. One photo of him and OW, not great of either of them. She looks totally annoyed. He remains utterly friendless so his posts and photos have either no likes/comments or a few from members of OW's family.

The only thing that upset me was a comment on a childhood photo he posted of himself. OW's stepmother comments: "Adorable! I'm sure you were as good a little boy as you are a good MAN!"

Wow. I feel so sorry for this family. OW knew he was a liar and a cheater, so she deserves whatever she gets. But this family! They have no idea the sociopathic, soulless person they've let into their family and obviously their hearts. When they've served their purpose, he will move on and never look back, just like he did to me and my family, who loved him. I did have a brief evil fantasy of emailing this woman with the truth, but I would never do that. It's not worth it, and not my problem.

I know, somehow just know... that I won't ever look at his fb again. I won't ever google her name again. I think I've arrived at indifference? If not, I'm at least in the same county and getting there at a good pace.

OW and XWH are a perfect match. Both selfish. Both liars. Both cheaters. Both morally bankrupt in every way. They are a perfect match.


Me: Looking forward to the future
Him: Left behind in the past

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ JK Rowling


Posts: 660 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 11:56 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know, somehow just know... that I won't ever look at his fb again. I won't ever google her name again. I think I've arrived at indifference? If not, I'm at least in the same county and getting there at a good pace.

Good. Give them no more of your headspace. You are better off without him, really.

OW and XWH are a perfect match. Both selfish. Both liars. Both cheaters. Both morally bankrupt in every way. They are a perfect match.

If at any time you feel lonely and angry that he gets to have a relationship and be "happy,' remember this. You will be able to find your own true happiness in life because you are free of him, and when you are ready and willing, you'll find a good man to share it with. They "have" each other because no one who knows who they really are would want anything to do with them.

Stay strong gypsybird!

[This message edited by MadeOfScars at 11:57 AM, April 16th (Wednesday)]


"Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn." - C.S. Lewis

Posts: 880 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Texas
norabird
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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's not worth it, and not my problem.

^^^ This is pretty much my dream destination! I am so glad you are feeling so calm and at peace. You deserve so much better than him.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 3722 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
SBB
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The sad clown earns more than OWUMpteens entire family combined - he has the same age gap between his XMIL (my mum) and his GF. It's pretty hilarious.

I'm sure her family are embracing him too - so sad that a douchebag, lying, cheating, ugly-arse scumbag is a step up for their hipster redneck daughter but he is.

When this ridiculous relationship ends he'll realise how much of a laughing stock he is.

Water finds it's own level, right? So do douchebags.

No more looking now. Those brain worms are sneaky fuckers and this contact will pop into your head randomly. Block all access to those parasites, even when you yourself are tempted to make a just a teeny tiny little opening.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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ideservebetter45
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Default  Posted: 6:44 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In my case the ow's mom also said what a good man my ex is.I bet she has no clue that he is a sociopath that left 3 wives and 6 children!

Posts: 143 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: ideservebetter45
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