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User Topic: Hey gonnabe2016, you were right
tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:48 PM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it was a month ago, ex-shat said that he couldn't pick Teslet up for his weekend, could we switch next weekend?

My response, "That weekend is unavailable for a switch because Teslet is travelling with me as per my text on 5 March"

gonna, I think you said that I probably needed to be more clear because he would start assuming that every weekend is his 'make-up' weekend.

Yep...so I get a text tonight..."Don't forget that I'm going to pick up Teslet this Friday for my make up weekend."

Uh.
No.

(Oh and let's not forget how he likes to stir up drama before a court date...that shit put me in crazy zone last October.) I thought that maybe I had gotten by this time without his shit. Yep. Wrong there too. (I'm sure he doesn't know the court date has been moved back yet as the notice went to his dad's house.)

Okay. So I've learned. Do not try to reason with this idiot. Do not explain. And for the love of god, stop assuming that he will figure shit out.

My response to him: "There is no make up weekend. You asked for a switch, I was not able to switch. You sent no further communications, so the weekend is forfeit."

My phone is now turned off for the night.
The mantrum is coming. But he can go fuck himself.

I wish I didn't care...but I'm shaking right now.
Fuck him.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4684 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh. I'm sorry.

I know I've gotten to where I hate the thought of opening my email because of whatever WH may have sent.we still live in the same house but communicate mostly via email.

Good for you for shutting your phone off. Ty not to give it too much thought.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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dmari
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Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good job turning off the phone! Let it go to voicemail ... easier to document anyway. I totally get the wishing you didn't care and shaking. (((((tesla)))))


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 10:56 PM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh and let's not forget how he likes to stir up drama before a court date...that shit put me in crazy zone last October.
Don't let him do that to you again. He's knows he's better off if he can keep you off-balance.

(((tesla)))


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FirstLoveGone
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Tesla. I know exactly how feel.

Douche and I communicate via email only, but everytime I see a message from him in my inbox I start to shake as well. And he too, always likes to start shit at the most inopportune times.

Good for you for shutting off the phone.


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 12:19 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My favourite NIKism: "They know which buttons to press because they installed the fuckers!!". Go for a run, punch a bag whatever it takes. Don't even read his idiotic missives coming your way.

I think he really is that dumb - nobody is this good an actor. How the fuck does he manage to breathe in AND out? Gold star for you for achieving that feat, fuckwit!!


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have you tried turning it into a game? I know it sounds silly, but when we turn a stressful situation into a "fun" one, it reclaims control and power in these instances.

So, I propose a game:
1. How many texts do we all think exshat can manage to send tonight?
2. Predict the text of ANY of exshat's texts or phone messages. (feel free to add as many as you want)

10 points for exact number on #1; 5 points if you're within 5 (+ or -)
3 points each for predicting the general subject matter of any text
50 points for matching at least 6 consecutive words used by exshat (+10 for each additional consecutive word)
100 points each for predicting exshat's spelling mistakes.

Prize to be determined.

[This message edited by Amazonia at 11:04 AM, April 17th (Thursday)]


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 8:46 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

100 points for predicting exshat's spelling mistakes.


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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norabird
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Default  Posted: 4:14 PM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((tesla))))


Sit. Feast on your life.

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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 4:46 PM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you said that I probably needed to be more clear because he would start assuming that every weekend is his 'make-up' weekend.

Yep...so I get a text tonight..."Don't forget that I'm going to pick up Teslet this Friday for my make up weekend."

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!! OMG, that is hi-lar-i-ous!
That first exchange a while back was just SO fucking moronic on his part. No conversation or anything with you.....just random "so it's my make-up weekend, right?" for like, 6 weeks or something wasn't it?


I hope that I'm laughing *with* you (and you don't feel as if I'm laughing at you).....because I know that having to deal with a person, who has NO concept of boundaries or *rules*, every.single.time there is contact is awful.
Sounds like *dealing with stupid* should be listed as one of the causes of a 'trauma reaction.'

Hope you're doing ok today and that he isn't giving you a hard time over this.
(Was that older original post also the one where you just kept re-stating to him: "read the parenting agreement, paragraph #"?)


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8078 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
crisp
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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She is frequently right.


Endeavor to persevere. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=csEzTwKemwY

Posts: 410 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: NE US
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here is a warning,,, when my XWH couldn't get a rise out of me for requests like you get,,,, then he started NOT picking up kids, NOT attending their stuff, NOT paying for out of pocket extra curricular activities, etc.

It's all their delusional minds at work.
It's funny but recently a neighbor told me the OW is starting to get irritated with my XWH!!!! I think soon this will happen with your XWH and OW.

It's like they are all cut out of the same cloth.

Sorry about what you had to deal with tonight, but you really handled it well.


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, I'm laughing about it today.
I still get the shitty physical reaction but...well, it helps when he's such a fucking moron.

I woke up in the middle of the night and thought that I was tired of going down the rabbit hole every time this idiot is an idiot. So, I actually did what ama suggested! I tried to guess what lunacy he was going to send and how many messages he was going to send me.

I figured three.
He sent four.
Here they are...enjoy the stupidity:

What are you talking about? You said I could have him this weekend when I asked if we could switch.

If you check the guidelines you'll see that I get Teslet for Easter weekend. He'll be coming with me to Stripper Whore's family for an Easter egg hunt.

I will take Teslet for memorial day week beginning on May 26th

Sorry, misread the guidelines, you get him this year for Easter. Though, as an atheist, I wouldn't think you would be celebrating the resurrection...

Oooooh burn. You got me there, ex-shat.
And by the way...totally don't get where he read that he gets Teslet for Memorial Day WEEK.

Jeez, did he really think from the first text that I was going to say...Oh yeah, I do remember sending you a mythical text that you could have Teslet this weekend...????

Anyway, at some point I'll send him a text that I'm going to exercise my mother's day weekend visitation with him (takes out one of his weekends) and I'll be sure to clarify his confusion regarding memorial day weekend.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4684 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
hellzapoppin
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Default  Posted: 6:02 PM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LMAO @ the visual of what a Stripper Whore family Easter egg hunt enTAILS.

Guess we won't get to see any pics of Stripper Whore in her bunny outfit, cause you know she has one.


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Me - BW
M 21 years
Divorced by stealth

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hellzapoppin -- she does have a bunny outfit.

I remember after D-day, scouring the internet to find out who this stripper was that he left me for.

I seriously did find photos that she submitted to be a playboy bunny. I am not making this up!!!!


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was picturing her fighting with little kids over the eggs she found, hoping that she'd finally get her pony soon.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

PS how many points did you get for content?


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

tesla, you need to write a book. Your ex and his dumb bunny are proof that truth is stranger than fiction.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I seriously did find photos that she submitted to be a playboy bunny. I am not making this up!!!!

Well, of course she did.

Lordy, tesla. You deserve a medal. Or ten.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 1:42 AM, April 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm chomping at the bit to see the Playboy test run shoot.

Those pix sound like just the ones I'd post on one of those revenge sites. But I'm a meanine ....

Memorial day week? Wow. What a nitwit.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Everything is as it should be.

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