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User Topic: Ran into Ex-BiL
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Default  Posted: 12:01 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

20 miles from home, at Harbor Freight.

He didn't see me at first. I said "Hi, <same first name as me>"

We chatted a minute or two. He asked how I was, I said that I was having some bad times, he thought it was about his sister... But it wasn't. It was about a couple of bad things that have happened to me, involving unemployment, water damage to my house, and a problem with my road/dam/driveway.

He told me he still sticks up for me with family, which I suppose is nice. Not that it matters; they're her family, not mine.

I just laughed and walked away after a bit.

Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

Posts: 5194 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
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Default  Posted: 12:56 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a relief that you can laugh instead of shudder after an encounter with an ex-IL.

I hope your bad times level out, and your good times ramp up.


"Sometimes people are mean, and sometimes things will be hard. One of your jobs is to try and make sure that that never makes you mean and hard, too." Cord Jefferson's Mom

Posts: 18276 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 1:32 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The first time running into X-IL's I am not looking forward to.

Sounded like you handled it very well.


Did you feel as calm as you sound in your post


Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's
better to leave them broken than to hurt
yourself putting it back together.

Posts: 3119 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Canada
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Default  Posted: 7:08 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ex-IL have been away all winter and get back this weekend. We live on the same street. Small place.
MIL will give me this pathetic shoulder squeeze of supposed empathy but will completely blameshift saying we had a volatile marriage a "must do what is best for the boys..."

"But stand still is all I did
Love like ours is never fixed
Still I stuck around
I did behave
I saved you every time
I was a fool for love
I was a fool for love"

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Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm friendly with a few of my XIL'S. Just yesterday while picking up my son for Easter vacation I chatted a bit with my XBIL. He have no problems between us and he actually said to me once that I should D my XWW because she does not appreciate the man I am. I laughed it off at the time, but the dude was right. I'm not friends with my XIL'S, but I can have friendly conversations with some of them.

You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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