I love some of your suggestions...but I think her having her friends there to support her and help make sure he doesn't take things that he isn't suppose to is just what the doctor ordered.
I especially like the one about ironing the synthetic curtains!
I can envision him trying to bully me out of last minute items on moving day. I would hope not, but I wouldn't be surprised. My friends will be there to help with that. They aren't afraid of him. It also gives me more than one set of eyes in the house to make sure times aren't being taken that shouldn't be.
The problem with engaging him in excited conversation about his moving out is that he WANTS to be friends. I don't want him to think in any way, shape, or form that this is happening. Plus I can't talk about that kind of stuff with him without crying. It's very triggering for me.
I SO hope this is settled soon.