So what we did was retain things we had pre-marriage; my musical instruments, his stereo. My filing cabinet and career stuff, and books; his books, etc.
Then we determined that I would retain pretty much all the furnishings in the house; and would purchase off Craigs List or other local classifieds/yard sales/thrift stores/pawn shops over the next summer the furnishings to set up his house/apartment furnishings.
Since he acquired most of his tools via pawn shops, he'd also be responsible to outfit me with sufficient/comparable tools that I can take care of my home.
A few mementos, some of my family's history and a couple of things that meant something to me was all I cared to keep.
If you're calculating the half-and-half for legal purposes, I suppose it's important. But you can give up a lot and get a dollar value in return that way.
Lighten up. You'll feel way better.
Her: WW/57 Me: BS/63 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11
Then we sat down and discussed the list.
The little shit didn't matter, so I kept it unless he specifically asked for it.
“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so."