I just don't know if that's something I want. But, it's only been a week and I'm not going to close any doors just yet.
^^ I think this is very wise. It takes a long time to process through all the emotions. Personally, I believe a year is the minimum time to work out what one really wants. I invited my husband to move back in after 4 months and in retrospect, in our situation, that was way too soon (some people know they want R much sooner, others take longer, it's all very individual, there is no right or wrong answer). My anger phase only really kicked in at about 4-5 months. I was probably at my lowest point at 9 months! It all takes time.... Time and a commitment to process your emotions, educate yourself, work through your issues individually and together..
I wouldn't expect a WS to be able to see their broken motivations right away. Reading and IC will hopefully show your WS the deeper reasons for his behaviors. I know it's so hard to wait for better answers but until he does some deep digging and hard work, you will get those cliche answers.
So sorry you find yourself here. (((Catapult)))
His betrayal of me was not because I didn't shine brightly enough, but because he chose to put on blinders.