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User Topic: For our friend iamsoblind42
yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 9:51 AM, April 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi iamnolongerblind42,

We have followed your "episode of Jerry Springer" chapter of your life from the beginning.
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=519182

In 3 short months, from DDay Jan 10th to tomorrow April 21st at 10 AM, your divorce will be final and it's time to change the channel. At the beginning of that episode you were feeling every negative emotion you could feel thanks to walking in on a double betrayal of your best friend and husband. You had no one to talk to and you were spurned by your family when you tried to reach out to them for help. You were never even given an option for R. All the while fighting to remain calm in front of your heartbroken children. In your thread you appeared to be strong and you are monumentally strong which has inspired me in my own story. Watching you to continue to move forward at a rapid pace was awe inspiring for several of us. But I also know how deep your wounds run, that you are still on the roller coaster and don't always feel strong. We have watched you get up off the floor and regain your life. From taking control of your company back from your xH, to being strong for your kids, to making new friends and getting your story out.

You may have come to SI alone, but I wanted you to know that as I write this right now, there are 43169 people who stand with you now. Tomorrow know that when your divorce becomes final.

No matter what your feelings are, from mourning to celebrating, that they are validated feelings. I'm fairly certain I can speak for many when I say, know that we at SI stand with you and will always stand with you. Today, tomorrow, the future. We see a bright future ahead for you. We hope to see more positive from you in your future at anything you do.

One last piece of advice for you as you close this chapter of your life leading into the next. You have been through an awful lot in you life. Always protect your heart, but don't let the bad people make you so jaded that you close out the good people. There definitely are some good ones out there in the world you know.

From my family to yours, wishing you all the best,
yop


Please feel free to add your well wishes for blind on her venture forth in the next chapter of her life.


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

Posts: 2206 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
hexed
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, April 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck tomorrow. Allow yourself the time and space you need to heal and process all of it. The SI family is large and wonderful. SI new beginnings is a great place to continue your journey.

wishing you all the best tomorrow!


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8460 | Registered: Apr 2008
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, April 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hoping for peace and calm for you tomorrow and always.

Continue to take the high road, for your self, your children but also because wayward spouses try to
change us into screaming wives because then they justify that they HAD to leave because we were screaming wives.


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

Posts: 2217 | Registered: Jan 2012
Sadmumma
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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, April 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

'No longer' blind.....

Our D days were so close.. And I have followed your story throughout.. I have t commented, as truthfully I have never known what to say.

To see the shift in attitude and mindset over the past few months is inspiring :)

Thinking of you tomorrow....


On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014

Posts: 536 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Land down under
StillStanding1
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Default  Posted: 11:04 AM, April 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stay strong, blind!!! You have been an inspiration to many of us. You have shown amazing courage and clarity during the most awful of circumstances. I am celebrating that you can move forward now, as I know you will, to happier days. I wish you all the resolve you need, strength you can muster, and happiness you deserve. I'm sure tomorrow will bring a mixed bag of emotions. Totally expected. Hard to close a chapter on your life that has had profound effects on your whole family. But I am equally sure that the load will get lighter with time. You have a good life to look forward to!!!!! Peace to you.


Me: 40s BS, Him: 40s WH
M 21 yrs - 3 teens
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday = 2/10/13, he moved out, he officially moved back in 1/25/14 and our work continues...

Posts: 715 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: MidWest
norabird
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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, April 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Iamsoblind))))

Not many could deal with the hand you were dealt with as much strength and grit and ultimately grace as you have. The main battle is over now. You have made it. And you have many better things ahead awaiting you. Congratulations, and condolences too; sending many best wishes with both.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4196 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
iamsoblind42
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, April 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, I am overwhelmed! I have not cried in weeks but am bawling my eyes out as I type this but not from sadness. The outpouring of love from complete strangers is truly amazing! I feel truly blessed.

I really could not have done so well without you all and I will forever be grateful for your support. Those that do know my story no all too well how I literally had no one to turn to. I remember in the beginning clicking refresh on my computer constantly grasping for someone to help me.

You all SAVED me!

I know tomorrow will be tough and I know I will be on SI soon after my court appearance.

I hope that one day I can help someone as much as you all have helped me.

I know every story is different and we all have so much pain we are working with ourselves yet people keep putting their own pain aside to try to help others. That is so beautiful!

Words simply cannot express my gratitude!


I'm a survivor, I'm gonna make it, I will survive, keep on surviving...

BS: me 42
WH: 48
2 kids
Married 18 years
D-day - 1/11/14
Filed - 1/16/14
Divorced 4/21/14
Walked in on WH and BF while her H watched


Posts: 209 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Colorado
Skan
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, April 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whoot! Whoot! I'm going to be raising a glass of wine to you tomorrow, you strong woman you!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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Violated
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Default  Posted: 11:47 PM, April 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs and strength


Divorced 10/2013

Posts: 548 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: West Coast
CheaterMagnet
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Default  Posted: 11:52 PM, April 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You've got this. And we've got you.

(((((Hugs)))))


If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5

Posts: 1037 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Kailua-Kona, HI
william
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Default  Posted: 4:13 AM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

as crazy as it sounds, watching you navigate your voyage has been an inspiration for me. although you might not feel it so, ive watched as you have risen to every challenge and through great difficulty pass through. seeing your journey towards healing has given me hope for mine.

you are an inspiration to many of us, me included.


me - bh
her - lara01

from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA

??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys


Posts: 549 | Registered: Jan 2014
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 5:11 AM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking of you this morning...(((blind42)))


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


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confused615
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Default  Posted: 5:53 AM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking of you today.

You will be fine.

You got this.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7697 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 5:55 AM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck today blind! We are with you!


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

Posts: 2206 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We all have your back! You are so strong


There is life on the other side of hell.

Posts: 1670 | Registered: Mar 2004
iamsoblind42
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Default  Posted: 11:42 AM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's done. I am divorced. Held it together through court while heart wanted to beat out of my chest.

Sobbed uncontrollably after court for about 10 minutes. Did not expect that reaction. XH did not see. Waited until I drove a few miles then pulled over.

It's a good thing XH got a new job last week because judge wanted us to divide company. Since he had a new job there was now no need.

Thankful my house, my business, our vacation home and most of the accounts are now mine. Parenting plan and child support are now firmly defined.

I have a bottle of Dom Perignon I have been chilling for this day but don't really feel like celebrating right at this moment. Gonna go later and get a massage and facial.

Thanks again for being there for me. You are great peeps and I am so lucky to have found you!

[This message edited by iamsoblind42 at 11:52 AM, April 21st (Monday)]


I'm a survivor, I'm gonna make it, I will survive, keep on surviving...

BS: me 42
WH: 48
2 kids
Married 18 years
D-day - 1/11/14
Filed - 1/16/14
Divorced 4/21/14
Walked in on WH and BF while her H watched


Posts: 209 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Colorado
yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No words today. Just....

((((((((((iamsoblind42))))))))))


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

Posts: 2206 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 1:48 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((iamsoblind42))))


“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ― Rumi

Posts: 1255 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Texas
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((imsoblind))))))) A massage sounds like just the ticket, honey. One day, I'm guessing fairly soon, you will feel like popping the cork on that bottle. For today, just take care of yourself and allow the feelings to come. Tomorrow? Well, that's your new beginning, honey. When you're ready to think about what's next (whatever that may be) come on down to NB.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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RippedSoul
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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Best wishes for a wonderful future! You will live this next chapter as graciously and determinedly as the last one. Hugs!


BW: 49; SLAWH: 46; M: 23 yrs
DD#1--11/30/12 (prostitute #1)
DD#2--1/29/13 (AP, escorts #1 & #2)
DD#3--9/13 (trolling MILF site)
DD#4--10/8/13 (EA with AP cont'd)
DD: 20; DD: 18; DS: 16; DS: 14
PS: I've NEVER NOT edited my posts

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