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User Topic: EX left boyfriend at Starbux
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Fuck NO I'm not marrying my exH's boyfriend! Are you crazy??!"

I get it. and you do too.

It will pay off. I know it.

And yea, get yourself in that list, at least in front of the dog!!
((((hugs))))


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5772 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I sounds like you handled it very well.

And "B" sounds like a little bitch.


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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imwideawake
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Default  Posted: 6:32 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's going to payoff! I'm seeing it in my house. Like you, I was determined to have no secrets. I come from a family that triangulates and rug sweeps. I've been open with my girls (not in a they are my friends kinda way). They know they can ask me anything and I will be honest. They have processed so much of what has happened and I know they will continue to process. There is only so much they want to know at a time. There have been some painful moments like when my youngest asked how old she was when his A started. When I told her 8 she cried hard for a long time. But she felt it, she knows what is there to heal. I truly think it's. better to talk about this stuff. And maybe our kids won't need to talk so much when they are older. Maybe this our processing our FOO. Think about how many of us here have these realizations of how many hurts we stuff during our marriages, I think it's because we weren't in touch with ourselves. I'm hoping our kids will be better off in the long run.


Together 17 years.
Married 15
Me: BW, now 44
Him WH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now 19, 17, & 15
Divorced 12/04/12

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

B is known to be "whiney", per my SIL.

My BIL (ex's brother) came to my house a few weeks ago, unannounced. He said, "You know we love you. You know we hate was EX did to you, right??! I don't know what EX's problem is, but family members know to stay away from him…and no one in the family really likes B either."

BIL is protective of me, and I appreciate his concern. I feel bad that they are "in the middle". They love me, they are my neighbors and I hang out with them, our kids hang out with each other, yet EX is their family. They are supposed to be "Switzerland", in other words, neutral…and we are not supposed to bring them into any of our discussions/arguments.

But, dammit, something is going down in the background and the natives are restless.

I'm guessing EX and B are moving in together and ex brought BIL and SIL into this mess last night. It is too complicated to type. SIL forgot she is supposed to be Switzerland.

Send me mojo. I am dealing with lower muppets today.

[This message edited by cmego at 7:20 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday)]


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


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imwideawake
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Default  Posted: 7:48 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending mojo ((cmego))


Together 17 years.
Married 15
Me: BW, now 44
Him WH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now 19, 17, & 15
Divorced 12/04/12

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