I wouldn't make meeting new people/possibility of a new romantic connection the only reason I went to church though. IMHO, that's totally the wrong reason to go to church.
It wouldn't be the only reason. My grandmother (my dad's mom) died a few years ago right after both my dad and my D-day. My mom and her OM left the church (yes they went to my church ) recently because OM got accused of "inappropriate touching" of other members....he is....was an usher. My dad goes alone and I think he would be tickled to death if I started coming again. I used to be very active in my church. Met my best friend of 23 years in the bell choir there! My daughter had a blast on Easter Sunday and I stayed with her in the child watch... but I would actually like to go to the service some too. I have missed it and would like to renew my faith again. And, now that mom and OM are gone...it won't be so awkward anymore....
My chances at romance are very low on my priority list right now anyways.....I have way too much on my plate to worry about that. If it happens it happens....if not....no spilled milk here.
[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 10:02 AM, April 24th (Thursday)]
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." ~ Bob Marley
At least if he's there early on a Sunday morning, you probably know he wasn't rolling in at 4am all hungover cause he was trolling the local bars all night for divorced women right?
Very good point!
Just start up a conversation.
I'm an extroverted introvert - I talk to everyone, it's just in my nature. "Hi, I'm ....." is a good conversation starter. I've found myself going for the quiet ones these days.
I met one of my loveliest beaus at a swimming lesson with my girls. My big girl jumped out of the water and head butted me so hard I got a black eye. I was sitting there dripping wet with my two little girls playing doctor with me and helping me hold an ice pack to my eye. I joke about nobody believing my story and say to the cute guy next to me that he'd better not sit too close lest people think he did it. He laughed out loud. We struck up a conversation and each time I saw him after that he'd remark on the progress of my shiner.
About the third or fourth time we saw each other he asked for my number. We dated for a few months and he told me he had noticed me for a while but never would have approached me because he's kinda shy. He was a BH and divorced 2 years. God he was lovely. It didn't work out because it was waaaay to soon for me. Still is. We're still friends and I introduced him to his current GF - I'm a great wingman.
That being said, my second wife went after me quite a bit. I tend to not pay attention to subtle signals, so I kept on ignoring her advances until for some reason it finally clicked. I had always thought her to be attractive and interesting, but I never thought she would be the type to go for me.
Anyways, the point is that sometimes a guy might overlook a woman for some reason or another. When I found out my wife was interested in me, I went after her with everything I had. She is a loved and cherished woman, and I always thank her for finding me.
The point is, sometimes guys might write a girl off as out of their league, or just not someone that would be attracted to them, even if there is no good reason. If you take the first step, they might be happy to take every other step they need to keep you around.