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User Topic: Separation anxiety in rescued dog (chihuahua). Thundershirt?
Too_Trusting
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Want,

You MUST watch this video and see if it fits your Maisy.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X8-3Ui0uELU

Don't worry - it's quite adorable and funny.


"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies

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Want2help
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Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Too_Trusting, that is HILARIOUS! I hope our Maisy has that kind of confidence one day! Right now she is still in the stage where if you look at her/make eye contact, she either tucks her tail and looks at the ground, or rolls over and shows you her belly.

On the bright side, she is beginning to play! Mostly with FWH, but we bought her tiny tennis balls, and she'll chase them, pick one up, get all excited and wiggly and licky, then (as if she suddenly becomes self aware), she drops it and goes back into submissive mode again. But we are using positive reinforcement and she seems to be playing more and more.

We are beginning to see little glimpses of the dog Maisy has the potential to be, and it is wonderful.

Last night was hard, it was her first night sleeping without my FWH (he's been sick and camping on the couch as to not keep me up all night). She was making the most god awful "YIKE!YIKE!YIKE!" sound last night and this morning. We are definitely working on making her crate her happy place, instead of the dungeon they kept her in.

Thanks everybody! I'd also love to hear from any chihuahua owners, who have any advice on the breed. We've never had a small dog before, the smallest is our (current dog) Beagle/Basset, and he's almost 50lbs.


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
OC born 3/08
OC Adopted 2014

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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Want2help...

You're making wonderful progress for sure!!!

A piece of advice about crate training that worked for us.

Buy some training treats so you're not rewarding her with full size cookies every time because as with any dog you really need to keep an eye on her weight. Ask me about fatty pants Kyle

Anyway...have her crate door open and treat in hand and say "lets get in your house" and lead her in with her treat. Leave her door open while she's eating it and praise her. Let her know that her house is her safe and happy place. Pretty soon she'll connect it together

You're all doing such a wonderful job!!!


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My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The big thing I've found with my chi is exercise, training, exercise, training.

They can be obstinate and can have a Napoleon complex. The training helps with these and the exercise is to make them too tired to shake and bark.

Here's my chi

He's will be 1 on Friday.


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Too_Trusting
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Mack, your little chi is adorable!!!

Want, it sounds like Maisy is really doing GREAT. Just know that you guys are her gift from God, and she's being submissive because of the horrible place she came from. In time, with your love, she will build confidence and understand that she has a wonderful forever home, and she's not going back to "the bad place".

Uh oh for her crying and barking all night without your H. Did you give her one of his smelly t-shirts? Another thing you can do is store her toys in your dirty clothes basket. That will allow them to take on your scent as well. Also, some of the little dogs like to be covered up when they sleep. Maybe try putting a little blanket over her at bedtime?

She WILL get used to her wonderful new home and that yucky place will be a fading dot in her memory. Pinky swear!

P.S. - More pics! We need more pics!!


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Default  Posted: 11:39 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so glad you rescued that baby!

Chihuahuas!

I have three. Wait! I meant they have ME.
Mama, Daddy and Son. Mama had one litter and then fixed. Three babies but I kept one little boy because he was SO tiny I just couldn't let him go. He is still very tiny at age 2 and he is a totally spoiled, hot-mess of a puppy. Sometimes his Mom looks at me as if to say ..."why did we keep HIM?!"

He is in to everything, much like an energetic 2 year old real little boy. He takes issue with the garbage trucks and goes from window to window and door to door, barking and raising cane when they pick up the garbage. He really dislikes those trucks. He weighs 2lbs, 5 ounces but acts like he's a Doberman.

Enjoy your puppy - they are great, loyal dogs.


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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I admire and respect the compassion that you and your H had when deciding that you could not leave sweet little Maisy behind.

My cousin had a dog that was diagnosed with separation anxiety and was prescribed medication. This was a number of years ago, things may have changed. I am not a fan of medication but her dog was so stressed that the medication was the best way to offer it some relief.

I would probably try the Thundercoat first.

She really is a sweetie....so adorable.

(((Maisy)))


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 3.5 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


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Default  Posted: 12:31 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No advice, as I am a crazy cat lady.

But, God bless you. I hope you reap years of good karma for what you did for this poor little suffering animal. Look at the love and gratitude in her eyes!

And, your daughter is gorgeous.

Best of luck to you and Maisy.


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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had the same issue with my rescue Italian Greyhound. It just took time for him to settle and start to trust that he was going to be loved and looked after. If you google the psychological impact of abuse on dogs you will get some insight into your little one's frame of mind. My little guy was a puppy mill dog and was very traumatized.

I did consider a thunder shirt, in theory they sound great but I've seen a friends dog in one and have changed my mind. The shirt did "calm" the dog down, in that it stopped it from running and jumping around but he HATED it and would cry the whole time it was on. It seems to work by making them uncertain about their movement and surroundings causing them to sit miserably in a corner until they're released. It didn't appear to provide any emotional comfort at all, and was more like a straight jacket then anything.

Chi's are similar to Italian Greyhounds (which are actually tiny dogs, not the size of a regular Greyhound) in that they are very sensitive, see how you go I guess but it may end up upsetting her more. It sounds like you are doing a wonderful job and that she is opening up to you. This is going to be a slow, slow process!

Vasily (my dog) would sit and shiver so violently from fear that his teeth would rattle. He'd never been on a lead before and scooted on his belly refusing to walk for ages - I carried him on our walks for the first two weeks to get him used to sounds! He was such hard work when I got him that I really thought I had made a massive mistake and didn't think I could help him.

He had so many issues the poor little guy but six months later is unrecognizable. He still has some issues and will never be confident in his surroundings but is the happiest, most loving and crazy little guy and I love him more then just about anything on this earth!

Hang in there, it will get better!


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Want2help
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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DeeplyScared: Wonderful tips for crate training! FWH used a treat to lure her in last night, and we heard not one "YIKE!" all night, until 7am when she needed to potty! Yayyyy Maisy!


Mack9512: that may be the cutest Chihuahua I've ver seen! We are definitely working on the training!

Too_Trusting: I gave her my H's pillowcase, LOL! It needed washed anyway. I will be collecting some of his dingier work shirts after he wears them, for sure. Great tip!

Jeaniegirl:

I have three. Wait! I meant they have ME.

Sounds about right!

I'd love to see pictures of your Chi Family!

RidingHealingRd:

I admire and respect the compassion that you and your H had when deciding that you could not leave sweet little Maisy behind.

Surprisingly (or perhaps not), this isn't our first rescue situation. We've had abandoned ducks, left behind chickens, feral cats, sickly dogs (just never an abused dog like this), and even a squirrel we raised last year 1 (I can post baby squirrel pics on this thread, if any one is interested, we raised him to adulthood). Mostly we find them new homes (we still have the chickens, though), but we just couldn't part with our little Maisy Mae.

inknots:

But, God bless you. I hope you reap years of good karma for what you did for this poor little suffering animal. Look at the love and gratitude in her eyes!

And, your daughter is gorgeous.

Best of luck to you and Maisy.

Thank you, we sure love them both.

nolight:

We will definitely be on the lookout for that behavior, thank you for letting me know!
Someone suggested she may be part Italian Greyhound, because of her body shape (big ribcage, small tummy, long neck).


In other news, Maisy got a harness and leash, and went on her first walk last evening. She's scared of everything that moves, but doesn't have a problem walking with a leash on (she runs circles around us, then STOPS, looks around, crouches, runs another circle. We're walking her around at dusk, in a very, very quiet neighborhood, so she doesn't have to hear cars or anything like that.

Her and the other pets (a cat and a Beagle/Basset) are getting along fabulously, finally. The cat and her play constantly (his best friend was our senior Boston terrier, whom we adopted, and we lost her last year to a brain tumor, which almost killed me).

Our Beagle/Basset is having some major jealousy issues, he's a mommy's boy (had him since he was a pup, and now he's 11) and he does not like sharing me. He let me know that yesterday by hiking his leg on my raincoat, which I did not realize until I was halfway to school, on the train. I could have died/killed him. But I'm sure he'll get over it.

So, what does everyone do with little dogs in the car? Our big dog goes in the back of the wagon, with a dog barrier up, but she can get through it. She wants to sit on the driver's lap, but I'm afraid of what would happen if we got in any kind of an accident. What do you guys do?


Now for some pictures!

The night of her surgery, the only one with her ears up:


In "her spot" in the car:

Skinny Maisy, with a diaper on, the day before her spay surgery:

Maisy and DD (she looks much bigger in this than she actually is):

Today, in her new harness/vest:

Maisy just being cute:

[This message edited by Want2help at 1:51 PM, April 25th (Friday)]


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
OC born 3/08
OC Adopted 2014

Reconciled


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Want2help
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A couple of the old man (our Beagle/Basset), just so he doesn't feel left out:


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
OC born 3/08
OC Adopted 2014

Reconciled


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We transport our Boston Terrier in his crate in the back seat. I worry about having him on our lap if the air bags would deploy.

So sorry about your Boston.They are awesome dogs.

Love all the pictues of Maisy!


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Too_Trusting
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Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Want, THANK YOU for more pictures of Maisy and your basset mix. Sounds like Maisy is really coming along just fabulously.

Now, when I saw the picture of her new vest harness... I heard a voice say:

"Nice. Blue. Vest you got there. SAY IT!"

And Maisy said:

"It's my favorite vest. I think it brings out my eyes."

[This message edited by Too_Trusting at 4:07 PM, April 25th (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, April 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh she is a cutie.

You could try leaving a radio on so she has some human noise while you are out.

You could also try wrapping up a ticking clock and put in her crate so it sounds like a heart beat to her.

As someone else said give her one of you H old shirts so she can smell her human.

Anxiety in small dogs is pretty common, our vet said when you are that tiny everything is stressful.

She is a lucky dog that you are rescued her.


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Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, April 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ohhhh, she is so sweet. I think I'm in love.

Your DD is a cutie too!


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 3.5 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


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Default  Posted: 12:09 AM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG, she looks just like our little female "Kloi"! I'm so glad you rescued her! They are really such sweet little dogs. Sounds like she's adjusting to her new family slowly but surely.

Something about Chi's is that they recognize and like their own kind. We had our little male first and when I had to leave the house, he'd lay and wait by the window no matter how long I was gone and when I drove up he'd run to the door and leap all over me. I finally got him a companion in Kloi. They're basically inseparable. We've got two other dogs but the Chi's always hang together. So, just a thought that you might consider getting her a 'friend' which may calm her anxiety. But she'll probably be alright after she adjusts to your family.


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~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
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Want2help
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Too_Trusting:

I will hear that voice in my head forever now.


Bluebird26: Great tips! The radio is already left on for our Beagle, or else he howls.

RidingHealingRd
: thank you! We're in love, too. For sure.

Crushed1
: I'd love to see pictures of little Kloi!


Well, for an update, yesterday we took Maisy for her first walk in the wilderness. We live roughly 25 or so miles from a national forest, where we often go to walk/hike/hunt for mushrooms. Yesterday my husband decided that he wanted to go see if any morels were out, so we loaded up the dogs and headed out.

We figured we'd be carrying Maisy most of the time, as we often have to on our walks around the neighborhood, but she amazed us all! She was like a brand new dog out there, tail up, back straight (now cowering in any way), she was the leader of the whole pack! She was jumping over twigs and walking along logs like no one's business. She even climbed a stump that was about chest high (MY chest!) for a better vantage point. We were amazed!

I could almost hear "King, of the for-r-r-r-r-r-r-e-e-e-est!" in her head.

We finally had to leash her because she was getting to far ahead in her exploring, and we didn't want her to be bear (or coyote) bait.

Also, when we got home, her Thundershirt had arrived. I let her wear it for about 10 minutes when we got it, with lots of positive reinforcement. I didn't velcro it tight, and she didn't seem to mind at all. Last night FWH put it on before bed, and put her down in front of her crate and she went right in, all by herself!!! Not one peep until morning, when she needed to go poop (which she did about 5 seconds after being released from her crate to the yard).

She is definitely the sweetest, most loving little dog I've ever met. Her favorite thing is to jump up on the couch with me, in the morning (or evening), when I am wearing my robe, and very softly paw my arm until I open my robe and let her in.

Here are a couple pictures, one from yesterday, and one from her in my robe this morning:


Peek-a-boo, Maisy:


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
OC born 3/08
OC Adopted 2014

Reconciled


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Too_Trusting
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

O...M...G! Peek-a-boo Maisy is just TOO CUUUUUUUTE!!! My little JRT is a burrower too. She goes under the covers every night.

Maisy is the luckiest lil pooch to have you guys. Thank God that you took her out of those horrible conditions and she is experiencing the joy of a loving, happy home. What joy to see her running around the forest having the time of her life!!

Want, you guys just ROCK for giving that sweet little girl the second chance she soooooo deserves.

[This message edited by Too_Trusting at 2:25 PM, April 27th (Sunday)]


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Too_Trusting
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Want,

I also want to comment that Maisy looks soooooooo much healthier in the latest photos. Clearly, she is gaining weight and just looks so much more strong and healthy. AWESOME JOB!!!


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Too_Trusting
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Default  Posted: 10:15 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gotta bump for a cuteness update!


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