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User Topic: Evil-est Ever! Stbx just let Everything be auctioned off!!@@
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Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I called. They wont talk to me since its in his name. We have 2 units at 2 different places. The one with all our house & life in his name...the one with my art studio etc in mine. We are marrief living in VA and the units are in Oregon. He has always let me know when its due...and when its late. I made good $ up until he beat me up in sept and it has taken me 6 months to start making art again (it was 3 months after DDay1). I make royalties but theyve dwindled in the economy & with him not paying CS I can barely buy hot dogs. But I always find a way to pay storage. Last payment I needed an advance from my company.

So I text him that he NEEDS to contact storage to get buyers info etc. He is NOT responding. And...uf it sold for more than what was owed....he will get a check.

I keep thinking of tge contents. Heartbreaking. But my daughter took it well....saying many ppl lise everything in a fire & its only stuff.

Ive got Ds11. I would trade everything for him. I guess I did.

As of Dec 2009:
Me: BS46
Him: FWH39 - NPD
Married: 20+ years
Kids: 3
D-Day: 9-28-09
Spent 4 yrs trying. He blew it.
Arrested for DV: 9-6-13
Fuck Him

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Default  Posted: 2:55 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just an idea as really bothering me, maybe post an ad in a newspaper, craigslist, or a bulletin. Probably the sane people go to these auctions, oh I wish I lived in Oregon and I would try to track this stuff down for you by going to the next auction. I know if I found personal things, I would try to track the people down..maybe, just maybe someone will contact you.
I wonder if the storage manager would be willing to put a flyer up st the next auction with your ph# and name. That way they wouldn't have to divulge the buyers name but could leave it up to them to contact you. I bet its a lot of the same people.

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 3:01 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday)]
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank

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Default  Posted: 5:08 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry. I feel your pain. My ex threw our stuff away in front of our children. Made me

I hope you can find some of your stuff.

"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awful story. I hope you can get some resolution.

Check with your divorce lawyer. Maybe because he had possession of so much of your belongings, and let it go due to his recklessness, maybe that will come out of his part of the marital distribution at the time of the divorce.

And, here's a thought....even if it's not true (that this will become part of the distribution) you can always text him and tell him that this will probably come out of his share of the marital assets, BUT if you can get back your children's memorabilia then you might not push that point in the divorce! (worth a try, it might light a fire under his A$$ and see if he can find the buyer of the storage unit).

[This message edited by JanetS at 8:55 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday)]

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Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

...hold on....

When he cheated on me i sold nearly everything in our 3500sf house at fire sale $$.

Did you do this with his knowledge and approval? I won't justify his cheating, but this doesn't sound exactly rational in my book either.

"Hey, does this rag smell like chloroform to you?

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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Im so sorry. That is truly awful. Just when you think you've seen their ugliest side, another one pops out.

I hope you can get info on the buyer and maybe they will be sympathetic to your plight.

Is the company willing to contact the buyer on your behalf considering the contents of the unit and the situation?

I can't imagine the buyer being interested in your gifts from the kids etc, at least. You know?

Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you can't make any headway here (and time is of the essence) then you are going to have to accept it. Your daughter is fine with this. Maybe you'll have to adopt that attitude. It is just stuff.

Here's a thought (for moving forward). Any special sentimental things can be digitally saved. Not everybody has the space to hold onto the many mementos that enter our lives.

But taking photos will save them forever...esp. if you keep the photos in TWO places (on SD cards).

Also great idea to do this for insurance purposes...photograph all furniture, appliances, collections (coins/stamps), clothes closets (not every item, but to show volume, and perhaps if you have a few pricey pieces photograph those separately.

Posts: 2585 | Registered: Nov 2003 | From: Niagara-on-the-Lake, Canada
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel War of the Roses! I want revenge

2x4: DO NOT mess your life up because of this man by doing something that will get you arrested. He's already ruined a significant part of you life. Don't let him be responsible for more.

Yes- I WOULD be VERY upset and would move heaven and earth to get MY shit BACK. Go on the internet. Go viral. GET your stuff back legally and never talk to the bastard again.

Me 47
ExH 43
Divorced 2010

47 is the new year of treating myself better than I have in 6 years.

What ever doesn't kill me makes me stronger so long as I remember that

My favorite drink is no longer Guinness but water. Call me Dasani23

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