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Cxw Sabotaging House Closing

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 Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 5:36 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

Hello,

As expected, my ordeal is not yet over.

Our home is supposed to close this Thursday. CXW is refusing to sign anything if she "disagrees" with the amount owed to me out of her proceeds.

This amount is itemized very clearly in the MSA, which she signed. It leaves her with nothing; all proceeds go to me. It is a legally binding court-ordered document. She must abide by it. There is nothing with which to "disagree."

But of course this is rational, and CXW is not. She said to the realtor that "this is moving way too fast" for her. WTF?

I have notified my attorney and am trying to calm down. The realtor and the closing agent are freaking out. Welcome to my world, I say.

Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune

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ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 5:40 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

gee, who'da thunk it??

I'm sorry she's so cray-cray, please DETACH the best you can and let your L handle it. With any luck, this should all be over in a few days.

Keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you!!

((((AD))))

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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hexed ( member #19258) posted at 6:44 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

((AD))

yeah...all very predictable but doesn't make it any less frustrating.

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler

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IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 6:55 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

So sorry this is "moving way too fast" for her. I'm sure she put tons of time, research and thought into having an affair, it's most probable outcomes and the eventual loss of everything and everyone that was good in her life. So, I can see how she might want to slow this train wreck down

So sorry AD

Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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Merlin ( member #30221) posted at 7:11 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

Press on Abbondad!

"I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A bird will fall frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself." D. H. Lawrence

Her: WW/57 Me: BS/63 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11

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norabird ( member #42092) posted at 7:46 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

((((AD))))

Sit. Feast on your life.

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Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 8:13 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

(((((AD ))))))

Deep breaths, she signed the agreement. She knew what was happening. Her former lawyer thinks she's crazy as a loon and quit!

She might prove she's crazy, all the more reason she can't be trusted with your children!

Let the rope out ...... She's going to hang herself again.

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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realitybites ( member #6908) posted at 8:23 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

I am sure your attorney will advise you, but MY advise would be that every day she delays on this will cost her a per diem amount, meaning anything it costs you to hold onto the house per day. I realize that she comes out with nothing but this tatic generally gets people off the fence when the realize how much it costs per day....mortgage, insurance, taxes etc.... figure it out and put it in front of her. Not only will she be loosing money she will owe you money.

I know....good luck with that, but use it to make her squirm if nothing else. Get logical and get firm. No emotion.

Stop expecting loyalty from people who cannot even give you honesty.

He stopped being my husband the first time he cheated. It took me awhile to understand that I was no longer his wife.

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Gemini71 ( member #40115) posted at 8:52 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

Since she signed the MSA, could she be held in contempt if she refuses to sign at the closing? Something to ask a lawyer.

DSs 21, 16, 12
About my Ex:
IDK
IDC
IDGAF

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 9:04 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

This is like one of those wrecks where, as you drive by, you know you should turn your head, but dadgum if you don't look anyway. I wish this idiot would just go away already!

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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Lyonesse ( member #32943) posted at 10:30 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

Sending mojo.

Respectfully requesting you send a photo of Cxw to Merriam-Webster, to be included under the dictionary entry for "unbelievable."

Me: BS, 40's.

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woundedwidow ( member #36869) posted at 10:47 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

AD, since the sales contract has been signed and and closing is scheduled, your realtor is now owed a commission. Your CXW is the one who is threatening to sabotage the closing. If it were me, I would ask the realtor to advise your CXW that if the closing does not take place as scheduled, she (CXW) will owe the realtor the full commission. Since she knows she's not getting any money upfront, perhaps the fact that she might OWE money as well due to her obstinance might push her to sign the closing papers. Is this an idea you could run by your atty to see if it would be a legal consequence?

Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it.

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 10:54 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

She is such a fuckwit. This is an idiotic attempt at blackmail.

What happens if she refuses to sign and you lose the buyer?

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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newlysingle ( member #38735) posted at 11:09 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

What a bitch. Sending positive vibes that she's just blowing hot air and won't do anything.

BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

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Bravenewgirl ( member #36267) posted at 11:10 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

Oh jesus jumped up christ on a bike.

How wonderful it must have been to live in NPD Cray Cray land, where the laws don't apply to you, judges only make suggestions, and you can stand perfectly still and watch the world revolve around you while the sun shines out of your asshole.

It must be SO HARD on the poor muffin that reality has come knocking. She is supposed to be farting through silk and living high on the hog with OM worshipping her while Abbondad waits forever in the wings in case she changes her mind. Sad princess has to stomp her feet now because shit did not go her way!!

Ughh...I hate her for you Abbondad. What a C U NEXT TUESDAY. Outrageous.

Don't come around here no more
-Tom Petty

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Caretaker1 ( member #42777) posted at 2:59 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014

she's a sick fuck that ruined a family. Let the lawyer work it out and IF she screws this up I pray she gets her just desserts.

[This message edited by Caretaker1 at 12:59 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday)]

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tesla ( member #34697) posted at 3:12 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014

Gawd.

This just makes me want to bitch slap the crazy out of her.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 7:29 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014

Sending mojo, AD.

How wonderful it must have been to live in NPD Cray Cray land, where the laws don't apply to you, judges only make suggestions, and you can stand perfectly still and watch the world revolve around you while the sun shines out of your asshole.

This is going on the quote thread.

In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson

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 Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 11:46 AM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014

Update:

My lawyer actually contacted CXW's previous attorney, who had quit after CXW signed the MSA. She asked her if she could help out by convincing CXW to sign the closing documents and abide by the details of the MSA--which she herself of course read through.

(Oh, and if you recall, CXW refused to sign until her BOYFRIEND "reviewed" the MSA. Why isn't he getting blamed for this??)

So her (former) attorney agreed to help out, and the last I heard, she believes CXW will agree to everything and sign--including the document which states that according to the MSA, I will receive ALL of her profits from the sale of the marital home.

But who knows. We shall see.

The final infuriating text from CXW last night: "I need to see the reasons why I owe you all that money from my profits. This is the first I'm hearing about it."

The FIRST??? The language has not changed since October of last YEAR, when the first draft was drawn up by YOUR then-attorney and mine. Then we haggled over it in December for SEVEN HOURS in mediation. Then you had the same MSA for FOUR MORE MONTHS. Nothing had changed. The language is clear, and it's not like it's a thousand page tome. It's five pages! And it says very clearly what you owe me and how it is to be paid!!!!

Aaaaagggghhhh!!!!!

Anyway, I did not respond to this. (But I did emit the above scream to myself.)

Oh, and she now has a job. (DS informed me.) That is good, as she is now more likely to actually pay me the child support and remaining monies she owes me and---... Oops, I was being reasonable there for a moment. She is not going to pay me shit--or at least force me to force her every step of the way.

Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune

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Caretaker1 ( member #42777) posted at 12:37 PM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014

I was told it's good they have SOS, as it redirects them and takes their mind off of us. I am finding no, it doesn't. In fact, it's the teenage years all over.

Abbondad you seem like a well mannered man like me who tried really hard, but this can't be our lives constantly dealing with this.

No one wins, but in this case....winning would be go away already.

[This message edited by Caretaker1 at 7:35 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday)]

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