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User Topic: Feedback on his NC letter please
Jls0320
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Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Met with WH's counselor today and she agreed that he needs to let his EA partner know that no contact should be made. He was moved from her location 2 mos ago but yet she called him last wk trying to stir stuff up. This is what we have thus far, it will be sent via text.

"I was asked to be transferred out of your store 2 mos ago as you know. I am committed to my wife and making our marriage a priority. From this point on all contact from you should stop and is considered unnecessary."

Ok? Short and to the point


Me: 32 Him WS: 33, 2 little boys
Him: EA with coworker, porn/cam/chat site/Craigslist addict. Diagnosed as SA
Together 15yrs, married 6yrs
Dday 9/17/2013, more discovered 1/26/14
Reconciling? Maybe?

Posts: 186 | Registered: Nov 2013
phoenix2015
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Member # 42039
Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How about a statement that what they did was wrong and selfish and should never have happen. A statement about how much he loves you and how lucky he is that you are still willing to be with him should go a long way too!
Sending prayers your way...


Me: BS, 43 yrs
Him: WH, 45 yrs
Married 23 yrs
4 daughters, 7-18 yrs
D-day:9/10/13
4 week EA
Porn addiction 15 yrs

Your character is what you do when you think no one is watching.


Posts: 74 | Registered: Jan 2014
Jls0320
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Member # 41192
Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like it thanks!


Me: 32 Him WS: 33, 2 little boys
Him: EA with coworker, porn/cam/chat site/Craigslist addict. Diagnosed as SA
Together 15yrs, married 6yrs
Dday 9/17/2013, more discovered 1/26/14
Reconciling? Maybe?

Posts: 186 | Registered: Nov 2013
standingonmarble
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Member # 31217
Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

From this point on, any further contact will be referred to my lawyer for harassment charges against you.

Be sure to let her know that it needs to end and if she continues there will be swift legal consequences.


Then be sure to change all emails, numbers, any and all ways to contact him.

I didn't get this, so consider yourself lucky that it is happening.


At one time he was a man standing on marbles. Now I am a woman standing on marble.....

We are done fighting with each other and decide to fight FOR each other.


Posts: 736 | Registered: Feb 2011
sisoon
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Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

From this point on, any further contact will be referred to my lawyer for harassment charges against you.

Brilliant, but I'd expand it slightly:

This is the last time I will contact you. Please do not attempt to contact me in the future. From this point on, any further contact from you will be referred to my lawyer for harassment charges against you.

If there has to be business contact, the letter should allow for it.


fBH (me) - 65+, fWW (her) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 9734 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
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