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neverdidithink
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yesterday was a significant date for us. While I can't say I really triggered, I was on high-alert all day. I didn't sleep the night before, didn't sleep well last night and I'm emotionally exhausted.

I feel like I have a hangover, but this sure as hell wasn't preceeded by a party.


Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9


Posts: 276 | Registered: Sep 2013
neverdidithink
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Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

well... maybe a pity party?


Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9


Posts: 276 | Registered: Sep 2013
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Emotional hangovers are legit. Totally know what you're talking about.

Be gentle with yourself the next couple days. Rest. Don't push yourself.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


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bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Us too, neverdidthink - and I had to leave the gym early today because I felt sock/"toxic." I wonder if that is what it was for me as well? I also slept crazy-hard.


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is more like a mental break than a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


Posts: 1739 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
neverdidithink
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Default  Posted: 12:10 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aubrie and bionicgal, thank you both. I'm tired of being "strong".

On top of all the A crap, My D23 had a huge blowout with her NPD father(my WH#1). While I'm honestly surprised it took this long, it's still hard to see your child reach a point where she understands that NC with him is really her only
healthy option.

The upside is that WH(2) has been fabulous support to D23 and D20 through this and so much more. It helps remind me that he is so much more than his A.


Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9


Posts: 276 | Registered: Sep 2013
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

it's still hard to see your child reach a point where she understands that NC with him is really her only
healthy option.

It's hard to watch your child in that kind of pain, but you have to applaud her for having the strength to know and follow what she needs...kudos to you mom for raising a self-aware, emotionally strong young woman.

It helps remind me that he is so much more than his A.

(((hugs)))


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3772 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
neverdidithink
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

karma: thank you, your post made me cry.
kudos to you mom for raising a self-aware, emotionally strong young woman.

I have put up with way too much crap in my life. My biggest wish when my daughters were born was to raise them to be kind and compassionate, but to stand up for themselves and the things they believe in. D23 has done just this. D20 is still finding her way, but has a great role model and sounding board in her big sister.

[This message edited by neverdidithink at 1:54 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday)]


Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9


Posts: 276 | Registered: Sep 2013
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