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User Topic: She is deleting texts
Schadenfreude
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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your message to her should be simple and direct.

I had a few simple must haves to continue being married. First, immediate and permanent no contact with OM. Starting now. You compose an email which I'll review telling him this. Not a goodbye my love letter, either. One that tells him you know what you were doing was wrong and hurtful beyond compare to my husband and family.

Second, absolute and continued openness with cel, computer, email. She has broken trust, and openness will allow you to start rebuilding trust. She needs a new phone number and email address, too.

Third, the marriage as she knew it is over. Because of broken trust. She will not continue to be as free as before. Goodbye trips without you, for instance.

Fourth, no more lies. Or half truths.

It's her choice,,subject to these conditions

If she won't agree, you know where your marriage is.


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Badhurt
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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, May 29th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can'T Trust Her

You still with us. How did the talk go????


Posts: 1097 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Eastern USA
Schadenfreude
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Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, May 30th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I re-read some of your posts. I feel that there is one issue to be decided. Do you want a marriage with more than two people in it? Does she?

Unless you come to agreement on this, at best you will face chronic disagreements and at worst will eventually divorce.

How did your recent discussion go? Anything resolved?


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Badhurt
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Default  Posted: 5:26 PM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Looks like OP has decided to just put up with it. If anything good had happened i believe he would have come back.

Posts: 1097 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Eastern USA
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