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User Topic: Monday! It's on Monday!
marlie2014
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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Monday morning the STBX and I will go to court and appear before the judge, explaining that we wish to be divorced.

Apparently my lawyer is not allowed to go in with me, nor is anyone else. But I will have him and a friend of mine waiting for me outside. The lawyer made it sound very simple and straightforward.

So from there it's supposed to be approximately 15 days until the judge hands down his "decision," in other words the final decree.

Please send me mojo, good vibes, prayers, etc. I'll need them!

And heaven help him if he decides not to show up. He was trying to convince me when I called him to tell him we had a court date that I should wait. Um, no. I don't think so. The faster I'm 100% legally free of him, the better!


BS: 33
WS: 35 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
1 OC 5 yrs old and another on the way (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

Posts: 211 | Registered: Oct 2013
MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you mojo and good thoughts- I hope all goes well (and he shows up)!

Mine should be final this Monday (for real this time), so any leftover mojo I have afterwards, you can have all of that too. We got your back!


“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ― Rumi

Posts: 1278 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Texas
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Major Monday Mojo!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25834 | Registered: Aug 2011
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 7:31 AM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers and positive thoughts coming your way!


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1875 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
marlie2014
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you! It's funny, I shouldn't be nervous but I am. After all, it isn't like one gets divorced often in this life, right?


BS: 33
WS: 35 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
1 OC 5 yrs old and another on the way (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

Posts: 211 | Registered: Oct 2013
Elaine2012
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mojo!!! and a ((((marlie2014))).


Me- 53
WH- 57
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 2 SIL, 3 grandchildren

Posts: 287 | Registered: Jul 2012
WeepingBuddhist
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you mojo! Hoe you have a good weekend and everything goes the way you want on Monday!


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 629 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mojo on its way!!!

You've got this.

Hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5318 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
copout
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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tons of mojo your way!


Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end.

Posts: 293 | Registered: Jan 2009
marlie2014
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Default  Posted: 12:40 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Holy cow it's in less than 12 hours now!


BS: 33
WS: 35 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
1 OC 5 yrs old and another on the way (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

Posts: 211 | Registered: Oct 2013
dmari
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Default  Posted: 1:29 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMGosh it's pretty soon!!! Sending you positive energy! I'm so glad you will have a friend with you waiting outside and don't forget WE ALL are with you in spirit! Keep us updated when you can!


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2281 | Registered: Oct 2012
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 6:25 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Any minute now!!

Prayers and mojo coming your way!


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hope you have some good news for us soon marlie2014 Sending mojo and happy thoughts!


“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ― Rumi

Posts: 1278 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Texas
marlie2014
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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So we went to court this morning. I had a friend waiting outside for moral support, and my lawyer accompanied me. I was only alone with the STBX for about 5 minutes or less, during which time he tried to hold my hand and looked gooey-eyed, but I wasn't playing. I said, "So, when is your baby going to be born?" And when he tried to ignore the question and mumbled that he didn't know, I said, "I thought you said you were going to be responsible for the child?" He sort of let go a bit and mumbled another nonsense answer, and then we went in with the judge/clerk/whatever she was and did the paperwork, signed, affirmed that we did want to proceed with the divorce, and went out into the hallway.


So he gave me a sort of half-hug to which I did not respond and said, "See you later" to which I also did not respond, and I left with the lawyer.

I sincerely hope that after today, I never see him again.

Now the paperwork will begin to change my last name...ugh. Oh, well.


BS: 33
WS: 35 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
1 OC 5 yrs old and another on the way (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

Posts: 211 | Registered: Oct 2013
marlie2014
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Member # 40981
Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

PS, thanks tons for the prayers (I am a woman of faith, so prayers are appreciated) and the mojo!


BS: 33
WS: 35 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
1 OC 5 yrs old and another on the way (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

Posts: 211 | Registered: Oct 2013
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad things went as well as can be expected. Take a deep breath and appreciate how far you've come.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1875 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey marlie2014....*fistbump*

Let your faith continue to guide you. You're going to be fine. Sending you more mojo, prayers and thoughts for when you need it.


“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ― Rumi

Posts: 1278 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Texas
marlie2014
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Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you, and congrats -- I see your divorce was made final today!
*applause*


BS: 33
WS: 35 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
1 OC 5 yrs old and another on the way (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

Posts: 211 | Registered: Oct 2013
Caretaker1
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Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So this jerk is having a baby with another yet you let him hold your hand and hug you? Good riddance. What a guy. Hopefully you meet someone that is normal.

[This message edited by Caretaker1 at 9:30 PM, April 28th (Monday)]


Posts: 234 | Registered: Mar 2014
marlie2014
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Default  Posted: 8:06 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't want to make a scene. We were in public. So instead of jerking myself away or saying "get off me you idiot," I brought up the subject of his soon-to-be-born baby.

The night before, when I called him to remind him of the appointment in the morning (because he's the type that would conveniently "forget"), he asked if I were going to take him out to eat afterwards.


BS: 33
WS: 35 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
1 OC 5 yrs old and another on the way (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

Posts: 211 | Registered: Oct 2013
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