A year ago. A found a text message on my H phone to a woman at his sporting club, and after further digging, emails. H admitted he had made a mistake and that nothing physical had happened. H said our family was worth saving. I believed him.
A couple of months after I saw FB messages and emails to OW number 2. They were more guarded. I only gave my gut instinct as to what went on. This time he denied it.
Wait for it...DD3.this weekend....OW3
Something hadn't felt right in a couple of months. I'd ask, he'd say nothing was wrong. I hate that I was resorting to snooping again. This time, the messages are to OW on the other side of the world, H trying to convince her to move here!!! Btw, they've never met.
Of course, because I looked at his phone...I'm the one in the wrong and can't be trusted.
I've spent the weekend crying. I'm now numb.
DD1 May 2013
DD2 April 2014
Currently wondering how someone who vowed so much, can care so little
I hate that you have need to be here, but you have found a good place. I have no advice. Just hugs.
I'm also sorry that you are here. There is some very good advice that was posted on this forum long ago, and which has been "bumped" to the top of the page because it continues to help many who have "just found out".
It also helps those of us who have been here for awhile to recognize what we may have done right and what we did wrong to draw out the process unnecessarily.
Please read it. It is titled "20/20 Hindsight. What I should have done when I Just Found Out"
I'm awful sorry you're brokenhearted but the guy is a serial cheater and has no remorse at all for the constant pain he continually puts you through. He's shown you that over and over.
The pain and heartache stop when YOU say it does. Not him.
Inlaws attempted an intervention, which ended in them threatening to disown my H. Being alienated from his family is again, my fault, apparently.