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User Topic: Cyberbullying...the new trend. How to help a friend?
She11ybeanz
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Concerned  Posted: 8:08 AM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My bestie came to me late last night with a problem with her teenage son. He is from her 1st marriage and has always kinda kept to himself. He pushes when it comes to her current husband and is going through the "You aren't my dad" stage and is constantly arguing with him and pushing his authority limits.

Well, apparently his solitude and differences have been noticed by some other boys at school and they have started bullying him via the internet through various social media. I don't even know the names of some of these sites. I feel like such an old fogey. I have a Facebook but that's it.

They call him names and say lots of things that are untrue and based on their own assumptions of him and not based on actual facts at all. He has become withdrawn and depressed lately and my friend doesn't know what to do. The teachers at the school brush it off like they are just "kids being kids" and they aren't breaking any laws so there is nothing they can do.

This type of stuff is scary to me. If this were my child....I would want someone to do something. Anything! I don't want him to become another statistic because no one wants to be involved or be the hero.

Children can be so cruel.... I remember being very heavy as a child....and I'm not exaggerating... I weighed 180 pounds at 10 years old. I had lots of acne....braces when I was 13 and all through high school and didn't have my 1st boyfriend til I was 18. I was the butt of many a joke. I remember once these two girls....I remember both their 1st and last names vividly (but won't repeat them for obvious reasons)....one sat on my right and the other on my left in my math class in 6th grade. They used to taunt me endlessly on a daily basis....and tell me I smelled bad. I was horrified. I would go home and take multiple baths thinking something was wrong with me. I remember feeling suicidal as a teenager from all of the picking and teasing that went on.....but I never went through with anything. They were just thoughts....but they scared me.

THIS scares me. I want to help him. I don't want him to go through what I went through. There are so many kids these days that DO commit suicide because of bullies like these. I think technology has opened up the hellfire gates for hatred and its so much easier to hide behind a computer screen and berate someone you don't know based on very little facts and a book cover than to do it to their face. At least my bullies had faces. And now ...ironically....one of them is a friend. I forgave her. I feel more sorry for people like that than I do anger. Something inside of them is broken....and they lash out for relief.

I told my friend to try to limit his contact on social media.....block.... avoid... close down accounts if need be. Protect him in any way she can. I know this is not full proof as he goes to school with these boys....but at least in person.....they have to face their demons. God help them. Its a lot harder when you have to look your victim in the eyes.

I just don't know what other advice to give her. I want to help but I have been in his shoes....but luckily....when I was a teen....social media like Facebook and MySpace did not exist....


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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She needs to report the abuse to the school. There is a no bullying rule now and it extends past school/hours and includes social media.


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Default  Posted: 8:25 AM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think she should also file a report with the police. Print out the pages in which these kids are libeling her son and press charges. Cyber bullying IS against the law and some kids and even their parents have been prosecuted for it.

I am also tempted to say that she or her H should go talk to the other kids parents but IDK. That could go all sorts of bad if the parents are grade A arses.


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:46 AM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah...I thought about her talking to the parents too...but I don't think it would go over well. Every parent wants to believe their child isn't capable of being so cruel. My sister was the rebellious one in our family...she is 9 years older than me. I was the fat nerd and kept my nose clean growing up. She stole my moms car when she was like 13...during a snow storm and sold it to a bunch of kids up the street for like $5 and my mom had to go to the parents house to get it back. The mom tried to play dumb like she didn't know what my mom was talking about. My mom threatened to call the police and the mom turned the car over and apologized for her kids partaking in my sisters bad enabling behavior.

It reminds me of when my XWH cheated on me. When he left me....all of his fireman friends...who had known and loved me for 8 years....his whole family....everyone who hated his ex-wife for cheating on him and breaking his heart....turned on me. They took his side like I had been the cheater. Like it was somehow my fault. But, I get it.....blood is blood....but the lost friendships....were harder. IMHO.

I will definitely tell her to report it to the school. I'm glad they have laws like that in place. I think it should be across the board no tolerance for hateful behavior but in this society that is hard to police. We do live in a free country.....free speech....and free reign to be assholes for the most part as long as we walk that thin line and stay on the legal side of it. Its sad and painful to watch.

I just hope he can get away from the these boys....I remember being terrified sometimes to go to school. Dreading my next encounter with the "Cliques" and bullies that enjoyed watching me squirm or cry. But, I can proudly say I never and STILL have never been in a physical altercation (other than pushing my mother off of me when she tried to choke me once....long story...don't mess with someone that outweighs you by 80 pounds). I remember a bully following me ALL THE WAY home ....at least a mile and a half.....and screamed taunting things at me the whole way not 15 feet behind me. I kept my cool and prayed and kept going. Maybe that makes me a doormat.....but I was taught to walk away if you can. So I did.

We are friends today too. Funny huh? How petty grade school can be.... ?? I know adults can be just as bad.... but I love how deep down we all have the ability to forgive....maybe not forget... but move on.....to a healthier state of mind. I hope that my bestie's son can get past this difficult time and these boys move on to another focus instead of him....

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 8:47 AM, April 25th (Friday)]


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Aww, the poor kid! I hope he has a dog...seriously, particularly with his home situation.

Too many kids are total a$$h*les. It can't be said enough that public school means one is going to school with the PUBLIC. (I'm assuming he's in public school.) That means everyone from the future astrophysicist to the future state prisoner is represented. Yuck.

I'm very surprised that the school doesn't have anything about cyberbullying in their student handbook or code of conduct. I wouldn't stop with the teachers; I'd take it to the principal.

Even our school which is in a rural Southern county has a cyberbullying policy and it is ENFORCED. (She says, with some gratitude!)

My DS, who's got an autism spectrum disorder, was the subject of some pretty mean-spirited mocking on Twitter this semester. I printed screen shots and took them to the school; they called in the primary culprit and gave her some consequences, to include being pulled from the shared class for a couple days (and harsher things, obviously...they left no question that this was NOT okay behavior).

I understand your concern for this kiddo. I think too many adults fail to recognize the massive damage caused by subjecting bullied kids to a hostile environment 5 out of 7 days a week, for something like 7-10 hours a day (bus rides make the exact amount of time vary). It is horrible. Oddly enough, they're not supposed to mind because "they're kids".

I hope your BF understands she has to give her son all the support she possibly can, particularly given that there's friction at home with her current husband.


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Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think she should also file a report with the police. Print out the pages in which these kids are libeling her son and press charges. Cyber bullying IS against the law and some kids and even their parents have been prosecuted for it.

I am also tempted to say that she or her H should go talk to the other kids parents but IDK. That could go all sorts of bad if the parents are grade A arses.

^^^This

At the very least she should just go and talk to the police and see what they have to say about it.

If this were my kids I'd be all over the damn school. They would NOT want to see me coming. This shit just pisses me off.


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Yeah...she feels stuck between a rock and hard place with her husband. He wants her to be consistent with his parenting but he seems (IMO) to be more hard on her son than is rightfully needed....and I think him being more strict and harsh in his demands on him makes him push and pull harder in retaliation. She feels like he is HER son....and she needs him to know she isn't choosing her new husband over him...and she feels torn. I can see the dilemma....its got to be difficult finding a happy balance. She has tried talking to her husband but he just gets frustrated with her. They have a communication imbalance....which has only gotten worse when the light of some pre-marital infidelity (on his end) came into light last year. They are still trying to recover from that blow....

I agree she should talk to the school...and go up the ladder until she gets viable results. I think most teachers are underpaid....and their patience is tested to the limits with these pre-teens as it is.....and at the end of the day....they don't want to have to go above and beyond or rock the boat because it might not seem worth the hassle to them. Not all teachers....but many. I know that we don't pay our teachers near their worth. I couldn't do their job.

If this were my kids I'd be all over the damn school. They would NOT want to see me coming. This shit just pisses me off.

^^I agree. It pisses me off too. If my daughter is ever subjected to this crap, you can bet your ass they will have to deal with me. I'm not that poor little fat girl anymore! These freckles have a little bite now!

Luckily he does have a dog....and a cat!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:29 AM, April 25th (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Would he talk to you? You are loving proof that you will live past it and life gets better. Let him know that as hurtful as it is, it doesn't last forever.


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Would he talk to you? You are loving proof that you will live past it and life gets better. Let him know that as hurtful as it is, it doesn't last forever.

He might. I don't know if he knows his mother told me about the situation and it may embarrass him. But, he may be open to talking to me. He and I bonded more recently on a friendship/adoptedAuntie type level. I felt the need to get to know him better since I've been his mother's best friend for 23 years...so I took the time out one day while I was over to get him to show me his artwork (he is an AMAZING) artist! The boy has skills! He can draw and paint like a pro! I'm amazed at his age what he is capable of! He just beamed talking about it. I enjoyed watching him glow with pride showing me his favorite pieces and the meaning behind them. I made sure to tell him how talented he was and to keep up the great work! I told him to stay true to himself and never lose that creative side! Its definitely a gift!

My mother has the gift of art....me...more of a writer. I love to write poetry but haven't in a while. I think the last thing I wrote was "a note to my unborn child" .... it makes me cry every time I read it. I wrote it while pregnant with my daughter.

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:59 AM, April 25th (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shelly how old is this teen 13 or 17? I ask because it changes how I would approach dealing with it.


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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When my son was in HS, we had a knock on the door one night - 2 uniformed police officers wanted to speak to him.

He was bullying a kid with CP online (back in the day it was thru AIM). As his parent I was appalled as we have family members with disadvantages (autism for one).

HUGE wake up call for my son that (1) they could trace him so quickly & easily through his user name (2) that this kind of behavior can result in police action (harassment charges).

Your friend should definitely report it. It just might be the wake up call for the bullies & their parents. I had no clue my son could be capable of such behavior


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's barely a teen. He just turned 13!


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Ok my answer for a 13 year old is going to be quite different than a 17 year old.

As a mom of kiddo that never quite fit in, I can tell you that if he can get through the next year and find his "place" and be comfortable with it, the rest will fall into place regardless of what others do.
I think the biggest lesson as a parent that we have to teach our kids is that what other say and do is truly out of our control, regardless if there are rules, and laws to say the contrary. If a kid wants to be a dick on Twitter, Instagram, snapchat whatever they will be. What is important to teach this boy is that what they say and do does NOT matter. They are only showing their asses by doing this, and others will pick up that they are not quality people to be around.
Reinforce to him that if they are acting in a certain way that he can certainly avoid them, and the sites that they are bullying him on, to limit the exposure to him. However it's more important to make him understand that he has worth regardless, if he has a one or two close friends that will stay by him no matter what then he should focus on that.

Help him understand, and you can do this because you too were that kind of kid from what you said...That there are only so many of the "popular" kids, and often in life those are the people who grow up to be douchebags, that have to find their value and self worth based on other opinions of them. (If Stepdad is this kind of guy might be where some of the angst is coming from too).
Help him to find places outside of school where he fits, perhaps some college based art classes, help him develop his passion. For my son it was music/band. He took up a second instrument during this difficult time, so he had a soft place to fall, and express himself, and he could explore, and learn.
He is no2 17, and still is a bit of an oddball, and he willingly will tell others that he is dork, but happy he is. His best friends are very similar, and I tell you what these kids that are his best friends, will be there the rest of his life. It's that kind of bond. He could care less what others do and say. Often his group makes up nicknames for the kids that are "popular" and they are quite funny.

Being a teen is tough, but if you can help him value himself and understand that those kids will probably be ditch diggers one day, it helps tremendously.


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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, April 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Call the cops. Those kids and their parents need to be made aware that bullshit is illegal and threats and harassment are not "kids being kids."

Think about what would happen to those twerps if they were adults pulling that shit.

Crimes, threats and abuse aren't suddenly magically acceptable because they're perpetrated by someone under a certain age.

eta:

I'd also suggest he take up some kind of martial arts training - MMA is always my recommendation, BJJ or Muay Thai, but anything like that helps self esteem and helps provide a feeling of control. He can always unplug from the net but unless he wants to learn to use school rooftops to get between classes and disappear into crowds like I did as a teenager he should start something like that right away IMO.

eta again:

They are only showing their asses by doing this, and others will pick up that they are not quality people to be around.

Speaking from my own personal experience, this is not what happens. Silence becomes assent and more people join in. The only reason I had any kind of acceptance with anyone is that I was of middling to above average intelligence and could engage people with shared interests, and I became violently dangerous enough to anybody that got close that I eventually wasn't worth the effort. I really do not recommend a mini slugger up the sleeve as a deterrent.

I fucking loathed school. The zero tolerance shit they have right now is, frankly, making things worse by preventing the bullied kids options. Generally those kids are seen as the "bad" kids and the kids doing the bullying are the ones who are widely accepted socially and by their teachers.

The "bad" kids with the social problems are the ones that get harassed and abused and end up suffering more than they would have otherwise. Zero tolerance really only applies to the kids that aren't the favorites, or even 'normal'.

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I hated school too! I definitely didn't feel like those were my glory years! I can't believe how mean children have gotten. I thought they were bad back when I was in school. But, now with all the social media kids have access too it just makes it that much worse!

I tried to take up a martial arts once during my divorce.....kung fu I think...and I made it 2 classes....and on the 2nd class, the teacher left his student in charge and I killed myself to keep up for 2 hours.....the next day I was so sore....I "literally" had to use my hands to move my legs out of the bed. I have NEVER been that sore in my life.....a marathon pales in comparison. One of the few things I quit in my life. I couldn't hack it....not at 31 years old. Maybe 10 years prior....but no way....that kid kicked my butt!!! I did try Karate for a little bit too...it was more slow paced...and more my style...but I didn't have as much time and the class was a little far away. If given the chance again and the time....I would try it again!

I would love for my daughter to get into martial arts. I know a lot of little girls get into dance and gymnastics and stuff....but I wouldn't mind it if she was interested in something that she could use if she needed to.... martial arts....archery.....knife throwing.... KIDDING! But, seriously....I used to be anti-violence but have considered going to a firing range myself. Being a single mom....I don't want to be the stereotypical woman that can't defend herself. I want to be prepared to protect my home if need be!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 8:19 PM, April 25th (Friday)]


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Slight t/j
Shelly - If you are considering it, I would strongly encourage you to go to your local firing range, preferably one that has CCW classes. It is an invaluable skill, and thing to have and know.
My H traveled tons when we were first married, and we were robbed in the middle of the day, a day I was actually off of work mind you. Scary stuff. The next day H came home with a shotgun. Taught me how to use it. In addition to that we had a Golden Retriever, and I got myself a Great Dane as well. A few year later he got me a revolver for Valentines day, and a safe to keep it in, my son was a toddler.

I now have a 9mm Ruger, that I love. I have it with me more often than not. You would never guess that I am gun toting momma by looking at me, but I will NEVER be a victim. Nor will my children. They have a healthy respect, and knowledge of all our firearms.

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Parent of two teen kids here and I worry about this stuff all the time.

I second (or third) those who say escalate it at the school. Make a stink they cannot ignore. I'd talk to the police too. Let a principal or police officer inform these parents what their kids is up to. If they are half decent parents they'll be mortified and deal with it. The a-hole parents will hopefully just be annoyed enough by the contact from authorities that they'll curb it to avoid trouble.

I also think just getting the kid off social media would be helpful (or at least limit to friends only). People are so brave behind a keyboard. Not that they can't be cruel in person as most of us know, but I think it can be so much worse when they don't have to face the victim.


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Shelly - If you are considering it, I would strongly encourage you to go to your local firing range, preferably one that has CCW classes. It is an invaluable skill, and thing to have and know.
My H traveled tons when we were first married, and we were robbed in the middle of the day, a day I was actually off of work mind you. Scary stuff. The next day H came home with a shotgun. Taught me how to use it. In addition to that we had a Golden Retriever, and I got myself a Great Dane as well. A few year later he got me a revolver for Valentines day, and a safe to keep it in, my son was a toddler.
I now have a 9mm Ruger, that I love. I have it with me more often than not. You would never guess that I am gun toting momma by looking at me, but I will NEVER be a victim. Nor will my children. They have a healthy respect, and knowledge of all our firearms.

I used to be anti-gun....anti-violence....but like you said......I can either be a victim...or I can be a survivor....and I would rather be prepared than not. Its definitely something I am interested in learning how to do. Most definitely. Thank you for the tip and advice. I agree that it would be an invaluable skill and peace-of-mind saver.


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I also think just getting the kid off social media would be helpful (or at least limit to friends only). People are so brave behind a keyboard. Not that they can't be cruel in person as most of us know, but I think it can be so much worse when they don't have to face the victim.

I told her this....he needs to limit his access to these jerks...and I second that bullies are not AS bad in person.....(there are exceptions to the rule of course) but I remember when one of my many bullies followed me home from school.....like a mile or a mile and a half or so.... about 15 or 20 feet behind me talking a bunch of smack.....TRYING to get me to start a physical fight. I wanted to.....but I was terrified....and I was taught never to engage unless I need to protect myself. I wasn't cornered and she never touched me. Once I got to my street..... the shark swam down another street and left me alone. My tactic worked. The bully was more gutless than all the big talk she had used for the past 30 minutes or so...

I was proud of myself for not fighting her or falling prey to her badgering....but it was hard. They don't have as much bite in person. I think its easy to hide behind a computer screen. IMHO.


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Have her check out the website called CyberAngels.org.
They have a section on cyberbullying under the header For Parents.


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