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User Topic: Letting go and pain shopping.. long
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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Late to this, and I haven't read all the responses, but one thing sticks out, so...

To me, it is eminently possible that they never discussed you - your existence was - please excuse the expression - the gorilla in the room, the main piece of reality that absolutely proved they were effing up and living in a fantasy world. If they acknowledged you, they also had to acknowledge how foully they were behaving.

Passing a poly and coming clean on most other stuff - he really could be telling the truth here.


You've shown a lot of courage and insight in your posts. You know yourself a lot better than I do, but please at least consider the possibility that, if you feel pain, the pain is really there. I say that because my experience is that the amount of pain seems to have been way, way more than I expected.

fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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