I am almost a month out from dd. <snip> ...so why don't I feel anything?
The numbness is normal in my experience, looking back I do not remember much, let alone feelings, from the first 2 months after dday. The betrayal of an A is a lot to process, and it takes time work through it all. Your WH is not the person you thought thta he was, he betrayed you for 9+ months. It is going to take a lot of time with him doing things right before you can begin to feel comfortable being open and vulnerable with him again.
I found that IC during the early months helped me wiht processing what I was feeling, and with clarifying what I wanted and was willing to accept in my M relationship going forward.
For me, I did not really feel ready to accept her A and work R until after I reached a point of detachment and knowing I would be OK with or without her.
btw, I love your name