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User Topic: 19 years
justinpaintoday
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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi today is my 19 year anniversary. Please pray for me to b strong as i am feeling very somber


I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.

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ThrownAwayTwice
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Default  Posted: 7:27 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Justinpaintoday))
Today I my anniversary too. First since this all went down...
My heart goes out to you.


BW early 30's

Separated March 2014
Discussing R


Posts: 55 | Registered: Apr 2014
justinpaintoday
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Default  Posted: 7:34 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

U too


I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.

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freeatlast72
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Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((justinpaintoday))

Try to stay busy, it will pass. The first one is always the hardest.

Mine was last Thursday, I stayed busy with work, daughter and went out for a drink with girlfriends.

Thinking of you....


BS:41 (me)
WH: 41
Kids: DD6
DDay: 12/31/2013
Married 15 years
Separated as of 01/16/2014,now divorcing...WH did not want to reconcile.

You can't rationalize irrational behavior.


Posts: 135 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: North Carolina
SBB
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Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My rock bottom was the 10th anniversary of our meeting - 3m after S. I can't imagine what 19 years would feel like.

The firsts are the very hardest - we S on our 8th wedding anniversary so the 9th was a celebration of the end of my year of firsts.

Be gentle with yourself - do what you feel like doing. If it's staying in and crying your heart out do it, if it's going out and being around those you love and who make you laugh do it.

There's no right or wrong here. Just know it won't always hurt this much.

(((JIPT)))


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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justinpaintoday
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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks. I can tell you I feel blessed for the 18 good years and pained by the final 1. I will struggle detaching today but am trying to avoid texting and limiting contact.


I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.

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WeepingBuddhist
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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Keep counting your blessings.

You've made it this far, you can make it through today.


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 553 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
norabird
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((JIPT))))

I will be thinking of you today in hopes of sending a little strength. Mourning what was lost is fully appropriate and healthy. Just remember that tomorrow will be a new day.


Sit. Feast on your life.

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Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's really hard, I know. My XW called me crying this past December on our 11th anniversary, hinting at making amends. It just made me sadder. A whole life thrown away.

But I moved past it and you will too. I'm sure it will get less difficult every year, as "deaths" always do. Stay strong. You did all you could do; you fought the good fight.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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justinpaintoday
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Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Will need a 2x4. Sent text stating i had no regrets. Shit. Only one this will hurt is me. Wow didnt think today would hirt tjis wicked. Its a stinger


I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.

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Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My 19 Anniversary is next month, a week before our next court date. I had really hoped to have this resolved before then so I wouldn't have to go through this.

Sending prayers and positive thoughts to you. I just hope I can do as well as you are when my turn comes around.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


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MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine was back in March. I gave crickets and also received them. It's just another day now.

The firsts always are hardest, but like those before, you'll make it through this one. I went out with some co-workers after work on my "anniversary" and had a great time. I barely thought about it. Then again, I had already put valentine's day and her birthday behind me (both of which I didn't handle as well) so believe us all when we say this - it does get easier.

Sorry you're hurting today. Try to find something you want to do to take your mind off what today is. Continue to post here as well.


"Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain, but for the heart to conquer it. ― Rabindranath Tagore

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