The woman that sits next to me at work is very kind to me, we have worked together for 3 years now. She has always done nice favours for me and even organized and hosted a baby shower when I was pregnant with my second.
The catch? She is a mistress and is involved with married men. She has been in a LTA with a married man for the past 5 years and continues to flirt, chat and text other married men. We hear about these escapades at work and it is so hard to listen to without triggering and feeling the anger rise up inside of me.
I am trying my best to practice equanimity and distance myself but even if she doesn't have those conversations with me I overhear her talking to other co-workers. I am particularly sensitive about her speaking ill of the BS's, these poor women who are married to these dirt bags. It automatically brings me into imaginary conversations that the OW was having about me...
Has anyone been in a situation similar to this? I was thinking about talking to her about it but didn't want to come across as rude or unkind because a) we still have to work beside each other and b) she has always been so nice in many other ways.
I don't want to move desks or take it to HR, was hoping to deal with it 1 on 1.