It is ok 20 lol.
HL and I have always known that we love each other and we have always wanted this M.
Did I always know that I would walk away at the end of this process with and intact M? No. After this last time, I had to sit back and watch and wait and see if I could do this. It didn't change the work I was doing on me, and HL finally started the work on himself. Once he started, he came along pretty quick.
I came here four years ago because I cheated and we started trying to R then due to my infidelity, and then I busted him two years ago in his last EA. So we have been at this process technically four years. I thought we were doing well when I busted him.
We have still worked on things, but HL has known that I was not in with both feet. He stood firm the whole time. Props to him.
We are coming out on the other side now. I do believe that I can re engage now. Fully.
Maybe this is a total t/j because I'm not qualified to weigh in on your questions,
You are always welcome to weigh in on anything, I have found your advice to be pretty solid. I value what anyone takes the time to say to me