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User Topic: California D
alleyk
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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can anyone share their experience with divorcing in CA? It's a no-fault state, but has the A actually affected any decisions anyway? Has anyone handled the D with minimal representation or on their own?

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Harriet
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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My ex and I used a mediator and it worked out well, but my ex felt guilty so he was genreous. The affair did not affect anything at all. It wasn't even brought up or asked about.


D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

Posts: 441 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: California
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 1:09 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Absolutely no-fault. But my L did make mention of his "affair partner" a couple of times in my declaration.

My D was long and drawn-out. I was divorcing a narcissist, so there was not going in without representation. 2 years of litigation.

If you can get your stbx to negotiate with a mediator or just the two of you, that is the best way to go. The litigated route ends up costing tens of thousands of dollars.


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7801 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
KLinNoCA
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Default  Posted: 1:31 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I divorced in CA as well. Took over 5 years to finish due to his NPD and refusal to provide discovery repeatedly.
The ex, after my attorney provided detailed emails, dating sites he was on, emails of his sex-capades to the court, was made to pay all his own credit card debt due to him using them to date other women during our marriage.

It can be done....your attorney needs to go balls out on it, though, and provide documentation of his using marital funds to pay for the affairs.


BS (me):45
STBXH:53
M 13 years, together 15yrs
4 kids (2 mine, 2 ours)
1st D-day:July 17, 2008
2nd D-Day: Nov. 20, 2008
MOW, as well as a former BFF OW--I was in an "open marriage", I just never got the memo.
Divorced his ass!!

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