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User Topic: Beat down. I need a hug.
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 9:28 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In the big scheme of human suffering I know my problems are small, but today I feel tired.

I'm tired of the overwhelming emotions. I'm tired of doing it alone. I'm tired of being judged by people who have no idea what I've been through, much less what it would be like to experience it personally. I'm tired of being told to move on, not to dwell. I'm tired of trying to forge a new future when I was happy with the old one. I'm tired of not having anyone IRL I can talk to and feel understood. I'm tired of people avoiding me as if my pain is contagious. I'm tired of carving out time for therapy, and I'm damn sure tired of needing pills everyday just to function.

I need a hug.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:41 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You've got it. (((((Tripletrouble)))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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IrishGirlVA
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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here are some more hugs -- ((((Tripletouble))))

And I understand. If I hear, "Everything happens for a reason" one more time, I might just lose it.


Me, the "B": 41yo
Him, the "W": 38yo
DDay: June 2013
Status: Over

Posts: 304 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Virginia
getnbtr1
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

People keep telling me "its gets better". That's not the problem, the problem is NOW. So sorry you are hurting and feel alone. ((HUGS))

Posts: 99 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: CT
Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((hugs Tripletrouble))))

It is hard. I agree you have every right to feel the way you do. This shi* is hard.

I am over 2 years out and just in the past 2 weeks finally stopped taking sleeping pills. Still going to IC.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 797 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
justinpaintoday
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Triple: Sorry for the pain sister... we are here for you. We care.


I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.

Posts: 700 | Registered: Mar 2014
Pass
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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I get this, Trip. I know now that my marriage sucked, but I still miss the blissful ignorance I had back then. I have a lot of hope for the future, but that shit can get tiring!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2142 | Registered: Jan 2013
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((((Triplet trouble))))))))))))


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5327 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
WeepingBuddhist
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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Triple))) You can get through today.


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 633 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
dmari
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Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Tripletrouble)))))(((((Tripletrouble))))) and one more(((((Tripletrouble)))))


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2284 | Registered: Oct 2012
norabird
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((tripletrouble))))

Tomorrow is a new day. In the meantime, we're all here for you.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4196 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Angeles85
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Triple I was about to write a new topic with your exact words. Same feeling here, I'm tired of everything u just said. Sending u hugs and I'm really sorry

((Tripletrouble))


Posts: 140 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Los Angeles
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I recommend ice cream. Not the kind in your fridge, the 'have someone put hot fudge and a cherry on top' kind. It always makes me feel better.

If that doesn't work, here's some more hugs. (((TripleTrouble))


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1878 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
marlie2014
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((triple)) + sending you virtual ice cream.

I, too, am tired of hearing "everything happens for a reason." Who came up with that crap???


BS: 33
WS: 35 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
1 OC 5 yrs old and another on the way (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

Posts: 211 | Registered: Oct 2013
AlwaysBeenStrong
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Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am tired too...but not tired enough to give you the (((((triple))))) for you :)


BW: 41 (me)
Divorced soon.
Moving forward.
Pre Nursing Student
Getting a Do over at 42

Posts: 125 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Lonelyville
AlwaysBeenStrong
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Default  Posted: 4:28 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am tired too...but not tired enough to give you the (((((triple))))) for you :)


BW: 41 (me)
Divorced soon.
Moving forward.
Pre Nursing Student
Getting a Do over at 42

Posts: 125 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Lonelyville
Grace and Flowers
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep. I get it. Over two years out and I'm still pretty tired and beat. First a hug for you (((((triple))))). Then I think I'll try that ice cream suggestion.


I'm Happy, not Sad!

Posts: 1177 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: US
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep. I still have those days myself.

(((Tripletrouble)))

I'd also like to recommend some guilty pleasure TV watching or reading to go with that hot fudge sundae.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3623 | Registered: Oct 2011
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for all the SI love today. I sure have needed it. I ended up having a decent dinner and conversation with both my teens, which is a treat indeed. I then indulged in an obscene amount of high quality brownie infused ice cream.

What is it about a couple off handed comments from the judgy types or even the well meaning but misguided ones that can push our buttons so easily? I think for many of us it's because we've second guessed ourselves for months or years trying to make the "right" decisions, and we don't need anyone striking a nerve. And those well intended comments? I clench my teeth when I hear "you have to decide what you want now". Really?? No shit! I can barely put on matching clothes but I'm supposed to map out my new life.

I'm running a fever now too and this has probably contributed to my poor state of mind. Or maybe I'm getting sick because I'm emotionally drained. It all blurs.

Tomorrow we'll do it all again.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((triple)))))

Oodles of hugs....

***triple*****

and some doggy kisses, lol.

Doggy kisses are the cure for just about everything! I was going to recommend chocolate, but I see you just had some. I hope it does the trick and you feel better soon, physically and emotionally.

Hang in there.


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin


Posts: 941 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
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