My guess is that if she fled with the kids before you filed for divorce or separation, it would be legal...No kidnapping involved..She would have to be gone for a long time before you could file for D and be granted the D based on abandonment..A D automatically granted under abandonment shouldn't be as lengthy or expensive as a contested D..Can you get a cash advance or a loan on an emergency basis to get legal help if needed?
In our state parental kidnapping is taken seriously with Amber Alerts and such...
So it is wise to be protected legally and protect your kids...One has to wonder how long it will take for your WW to come to her senses...
[This message edited by doggiediva at 9:41 AM, May 2nd (Friday)]
it is absolutely imperative that you seek a lawyer like yesterday. her comment about the children is absolutely bone chilling. you need an opinion from him as to whether she can actually just up and leave with the kids.
if she has already thought about doing that, she's a lot farther down the road to leaving you than you think. get proactive. protect yourself and the children.
my advice would be to file for divorce and ask for custody. it can always be withdrawn.
yeah, its that serious!
easy, are there any parents or siblings you could borrow the money from?
And yes, you have actually been threatened by your wife and in some way the OM.
Can you afford any kind of background check on this guy. Some of those can be as cheap as $15. Companies use them all of the time for employment.
Do you even know if this guy works?
Have you told her parents any of this?