Topic: My awesome IC gives me peace
Member # 39169
| Posted: 9:22 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
A while back there was a thread for those of us with poor relationships with our mothers. My own relationship was filled with anger, frustration, hurt, and guilt. In my early 20's I moved away and disengaged. I always had so much guilt. Today, almost a year into IC we landed directly on my mommy issues. My astute therapist said all of what she has heard points to my mother being borderline and she encourages me to minimize contact. It felt like a sack of bricks coming off my back. At long last a professional has acknowledged how hurtful it would be to me to keep letting her hack away at me with her histrionics and guilt trips. Yay! I'm validated.
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller
Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
Member # 14866
| Posted: 12:59 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
I am glad that you are finding peace and that is leading to healing.
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
Posts: 52319 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Member # 21101
| Posted: 1:08 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
Isn't it a wonderful feeling when someone with the degree, or expertise can back up what you have believed to be true????
I so understand what you are saying and where you are coming from.
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
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Posts: 8592 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Member # 39902
| Posted: 7:06 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
I too understand where you are coming from. Just because they are related doesn't mean we have to be in an unhealthy relationship with them.
Posts: 84 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 42092
| Posted: 12:04 AM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014|
That feeling of validation in IC is so, so sweet. I will never forget the feeling I had the first time I saw a good IC who said about a past relationship with a suicidal ex: 'That must have been really hard.' Those little affirmations somehow give us permission to acknowledge the weight and put it down. I'm glad you're moving toward a healthier place with your relationship to your mom because of it!!
Sit. Feast on your life.
Posts: 4190 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Member # 31349
| Posted: 12:15 AM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014|
I'm sure I participated in that thread. I'm so glad you have an IC that is helping you sort through this.
If life is just a series of ridiculous attempts to be alive, you're a hero. - J. Winger
Posts: 17531 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
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