I am ready to blow!!!
This DEADBEAT DAD NPD (with sociopath traits) who was convicted of DV against me...is on probation for it...I have a 2-yr PO against...who doesnt pay the CS he agreed to in writing...and has done the most psycho evil things like hold DS11's meds hostage until I come see him, has requested visitation ONCE in 45 days (and forfeits that cuz he wont pay me $10 to have DS11 dropped at his place as he says he cldnt meet @ middle location, & most recently last Monday let our ENTIRE HOUSEHOLD & that of our kids be auctioned off over $577 WITHOUT TELLING ME!!! I found out after the fact & left him a hysterical, tearful vm "how could you not tell me? It was everything we & the kids owned?". (See my other posts for details).
SI gave me advice to go NC (as he likes to engage in crazy text wars). Crickets from me. Its been 10 days since my last contact re: storage. Here is what Ive gotten from him:
Friday 9pm: " Friday night thunderstorm... Thinking about the times we laid in bed with the curtains open and watched the lightning. Just sayin'."
Monday 6:45am: " Must be nice waking up next to a warm body... Even if it's his.
It's actually really weird not hearing from you all the time." (...stbx stalking me?).
And today at 545AM!!!:
"The car loan place keeps calling me-what should I tell them? If you dont answer I will just change my phone number.
On a separate note, when can I see DS11?"
And then today at 8:30am:
" No response for a request to see DS11, huh?"
I want to say...
"YOU F**K! YOU PUPOSELY LET EVERYTHING WE HAVE GO...MEMORIES...VALUABLE STUFF...EVERYTHING WE HAVE ACCUMULATED OUR ENTIRE LIVES (INCLUDING OUR KIDS STUFF) TENS IF THOUSANDS OF $ WORTH WITHOUT A PEEP BEFORE OR AN APOLOGY AFTER! I ASK FOR $ SO DS11 CAN HAVE FOOD AND YOU REFUSE!!! YOU DONT PAY THE CHILD SUPPORT YOU AGREED TO AND WANT $ FROM ME FOR THE CAR LOAN? WHEN I MADE EVERY STORAGE PAYMENT & YOU JUST PISSED IT AWAY? (I SHOULD SUE YOU FOR THAT!) YOU NEVER ASK FOR VISITATION & WHENYOU HAVE INTHE PAST YOU COULDNT ABIDE BY THE 1-WEEKS NOTICE? AND THE ONE TIME YOU HAD IT SCHEDULED YOU GAVE IT UP JUST BECAUSE YOU DIDNT WANT TO GIVE ME A MEASELY $10!! AND NOW YOU TEXT ME AT F**KING 5:45AM FOR VISITATION & HARRASS ME ABOUT IT AGAIN 3 HOURS LATER???"
He has not answered questions Ive asked...and he wants me to respond to his visitation request before DS11 even has breakfast (no thanks to him).
WHAT / HOW SHOULD I REPLY?
I suppose I could say:
"Giving me 3 hours from your PRE-dawn text is unreasonable. I will need to look at my schedule & that of DS11 & get back to you. In the mean time, why dont you answer these questions. By the time you answer, I should have a response for you:
1) When & how much can I expect a child support payment.
2) How do you plan to take care of your arrears in child support?
3) What is the outcome of the storage unit you let go to auction? Have you had any communication with or from storage?