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User Topic: Appealed
kg201
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Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My STBX appealed the ruling on her restraining order. The appeals court agreed to hear her argument.

No guarantee that they will rule in her favor, but what a pain in the ass. We have the first meeting with the judge on the divorce in one week, so this is just an extra hassle that wastes energy.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 733 | Registered: Aug 2013
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh. Sorry, kg. Sending you appeals court mojo. May they see her baloney for what it is.


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"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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5454real
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh, do you happen to know on what grounds they based that on? unless the judge made a mistake legally, she doesn't have much of a leg to stand on.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 3022 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
kg201
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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No sure why the appeals court agreed to hear it, but she argues in her brief that she was not given due process in the original hearing. she states that she wasn't allowed to respond to claims I made. At one point during the hearing my X tried to speak and the judge told her that it's the lawyers' show, not hers. My X is/was a criminal defense lawyer before her cancer diagnosis, so she is trying to do a lot of this on her own.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
---------------------------------
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 733 | Registered: Aug 2013
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm confused. What exactly is your STBX trying to achieve? I assume you're pretty much NC with her already. Yes you're 'nesting', but doesn't she leave before you get there and you leave before she arrives? Where is the opportunity for threatening interaction? Unless of course she thinks you're coaching the dog to throw up when she's there.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

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Posts: 1877 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
kg201
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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gemini, that is exactly what my lawyers and I are wondering. It makes no sense. I have not had an angry confrontation with her since last September, a month and a half after dday. The only thing I can think of is that she has always compared herself to me, and losing to me in court just doesn't sit well with her. Also professionally she hated losing in court, so this is maybe her way of trying to make up for that loss. As far as divorce goes, I don't know whether a RO would help her in the divorce process.

In her appeal she says I am holding up the divorce process which completely floored me. I'm the one who filed. I'm the one who spent six hours with the lawyers to make her suggestions on a parenting plan into an official document...which after three months she has still refused to sign. She is the one who emailed me yesterday, after receiving my draft separation agreement, that there was no way we would come to an agreement next week.

But there it is.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
---------------------------------
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

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welcome14
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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Really shocking. I wonder where the doggie got that kind of sense of entitlement? To be able to just throw up wherever some poor, poor, Princess-who-the-sun-shines-alone-for might step in it? Who raised that dog? Oh, er, nevermind...


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I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


Posts: 1224 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
kg201
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Default  Posted: 6:46 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Poor entitled Molly. She was barking at me this evening. Didn't want to go out. I pointed to her food. She still barked. I think she was feeling entitled to a carrot, but I don't respond to threats anymore.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
---------------------------------
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 733 | Registered: Aug 2013
Caretaker1
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You think with cancer she would be more empathetic, but like my Stbx it was just the opposite. This is just making the lawyers richer. If she has someone else, why won't she just eff off go get remarried and get this over with. Mine competed with me too for no reason. We were a team but she started competing on stupid things. This is all a stain in my life's journey. Enough of this crap....they all project and lie and manipulate. How fix we pick these folks and care for them?

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