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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

it is far to easy to get vested emotionally with someone too prematurely. We live in a fast paced culture and I guess dating and relationships is just another casualty of that.

Exactly...that is what I wish I was smart enough to have written. I bet you have some interesting Garden Parties.

I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know.

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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If I ever hit the "dating" world again, chances are I will do the OLD to meet potentials. The reason behind that is my work is predominantly male, and the few females we do have are definitely not the type for me (I work the pipeline, installing natural gas lines). The only time I'm ever out of the house other than for work is at a bar (not to drink, I front a local band), and, although I know there are good women that do go out to bars, the percentage chance of finding one is lower than I'm willing to risk.
Something about any of those dating site profiles; they are only as accurate as the person filling them out. I like okcupid (it is actually the only site I've personally used, so I'm sure some of the other sites are just as good also), because it shows you the questions a person has answered. If I do enter the dating world again, and that's a pretty big if, I won't seriously look at any profile with less than 250 questions answered. I'm sure I've taken a detour in the intended direction by now, but I actually wanted my WSO to start an OKcupid account just so I could see how her questions lined up with mine. She refused, but still, I am very interested in seeing how the site would rate us.

BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

Posts: 164 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: New England
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Default  Posted: 11:54 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I enjoyed my time on OLD for the most part. I took it as an adventure and I was glad to be able to come here and tell the stories of the clunkers or the disappointments or the squeeeeee of the first (decent) kiss. As it turns out, even though I went out on many dates with a variety of men, I have spent the last four years with the first one I went on a coffee date with.

People are complicated online or offline, and it takes a while to really determine if someone is right for you.

Where are you in the dating scene? Does this post reflect that you are thinking of dating again?

BS, now age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years M and 20 together. In some ways I have not 'gotten over it'. But I am resilient and have created a good life where I am mostly happy.

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Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, May 2nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What is perplexing to me is how we live in the same community as our cheating exes...and many of them have cheated with multiple partners. How do they hook up so easily? Seems unfair.

D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

Posts: 529 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 3:17 AM, May 3rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@Harriet.... Maybe its because we are genuinely trying to get healthy and it takes time to attract what you already are or becoming. Maybe its just easy to attract a slimeball lol. Also, some of the AP are so disgusting and obviously our ex's had low standards.

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