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User Topic: Calling a guy
Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, May 4th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

so I hope that means I was being true to me
That alone is the most important thing. Be who you are. It's up to him to have the presence of mind to see your worth.


xBH
D final 8/2012

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norabird
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, May 4th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He followed up by text to confirm scheduling. Ahhhhh a date with a handsome stranger ahhhhhh!!!!!


Sit. Feast on your life.

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, May 4th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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dontknowwhyme
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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Women should consider that some men are just as freaked out about what to do than are the women. It is pretty easy for us to get the wrong impression about who's turn it is, or was she interested or just being nice. Sometimes they need a push in the right direction. I find it is attractive for a woman to not be afraid to make the first move.


BS 38
FWW 37 (fireandice)
Married 13 Years - Together 20
D-Day1:Jan 08 (EA OM#1)
D-Day2:8-15-08 (EA/PA OM#2)
DS12, DS9
D-Day3:11-3-10
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Remember, you don't drown from being thrown in the water. You drown from staying in it.

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LearningToRun
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I always feel guys saying they want women to make the first move is tantamount to girls saying they just want a nice guy.


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GreatRoleModel
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Default  Posted: 1:05 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BS (me)
XWS (him) NPD
DIVORCED!!!
It takes a village to deal with the village idiot!

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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The alternative to making the first move to make it easier for the guy is to let him know what makes you happy, what kind of food, activities, days and times for dates so he can be confident that he can create a date you would enjoy. This can happen in a pleasant conversation about life's joys and fun things.

Men get flustered or stuck when they have to guess or try to read your mind. But men with a little leadership can move forward when they know more, and it makes them feel good to create a successful experience for you.

This way you weed out the passive guys that want you to do all the work.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

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SeanFLA
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Default  Posted: 11:36 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Men get flustered or stuck when they have to guess or try to read your mind. But men with a little leadership can move forward when they know more, and it makes them feel good to create a successful experience for you.

True dat ^^^^^


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WW 46
1 son 14 yrs old
Married 18 yrs, together 21 yrs

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." ~ Bob Marley


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asurvivor
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Default  Posted: 12:08 AM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Men get flustered or stuck when they have to guess or try to read your mind. But men with a little leadership can move forward when they know more, and it makes them feel good to create a successful experience for you.

I'm sure you didn't mean it this way (or at least I hope) but to me this reads like men are sort of bumbling nincompoops who must be given cues to create a successful experience (which sounds more like a cruise ship director than a date)for you. Sort of half joking but Lord, I didn't realize I was so inept.


I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know.



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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 12:34 AM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please don't take my words to mean I think men are bumbling nincompoops. I just meant that it is considerate and thoughtful of a woman to let a man know what makes her happy rather than expect him to guess. This reflects respect rather than disdain. I generally like and respect men.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

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