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User Topic: A long overdue update
cryingdaily
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh boy. Here goes.

If you remember NOGuy (New Old Guy) you might remember that things started out a little rocky.

He was very needy and very clingy and I am neither of those things.

Well, after some ups and downs, he has eased up a lot and things got better.

It's been two years now that we've been dating and we ran into a new issue. He wants to get M. It's not that I don't want to, but I've been M twice and, obviously, those didn't work out. He, being a traditional type of guy, wants to do things the traditional way.

I knew it was my "stuff" (FOO stuff, past relationship stuff) that was keeping me from moving forward. I realized I needed to look past that and decide if I was ready to plan a future with another person or if I was ready to accept the fact that I would remain alone. While I'm a little freaked out about that prospect (and yes I've been honest about all of this with him) I decided I was ready to move forward and said yes.

So, it looks like I'm engaged.

He is going to sell his house and move into mine. We decided his is just too big and expensive and quite honestly, I want to do more things than just pay for a house. Besides, I just bought the compound two years ago. I'm planning to stay for a while.

So that's the short story and here is a really terrible picture of my beautiful ring.

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[This message edited by cryingdaily at 4:01 PM, May 1st (Thursday)]


Me: BS 48
Him: Doesn't matter any more.
The Royal Court, formerly known as the Princess Posse:
DD31 - Belle
DD23 - Xena
GD10 - Jasmine
GD8 - Ariel
GD Born 9/4/12 - Tink
GS Born 6/23/2014 - Little Prince

Posts: 14394 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: Massachusetts
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 4:04 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats CD!!!! You're inviting us all, right?


AKA Moo

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We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 51506 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 4:06 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats, CD!


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7780 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
cryingdaily
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Default  Posted: 4:27 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Haha. Besides, I figured I had to M him because he really likes the Posse and they like him. Even with the young ones running in and out of my house constantly, pregnant Xena coming in and stealing food (she has her own, mind you, she just says my food tastes better ) and the general craziness of life at "The Compound"

And, apparently, I'm the only woman his kids have liked....and they happen to love me.


Me: BS 48
Him: Doesn't matter any more.
The Royal Court, formerly known as the Princess Posse:
DD31 - Belle
DD23 - Xena
GD10 - Jasmine
GD8 - Ariel
GD Born 9/4/12 - Tink
GS Born 6/23/2014 - Little Prince

Posts: 14394 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: Massachusetts
little turtle
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!!!


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Posts: 4131 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! Congrats

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Kodi
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Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You forgot to mention He's also passed the SI Florida contingent scrutiny!!!


Yay!!!!!! I'm so happy for you both!!!!! When are you planning the wedding?

Hugs,
K

[This message edited by Kajem at 4:50 PM, May 1st (Thursday)]


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Posts: 4850 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
cmego
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awwww….congrats!!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

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Posts: 4028 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!!!


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Posts: 3325 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats crying!!!


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5372 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!! I was hoping you'd drop by soon.


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gardenparty
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Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice! Congratulations to you both.


divorced!

Posts: 2640 | Registered: Sep 2006 | From: newfoundland
inconnu
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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!! and yeah, I was hoping to see you update here, too.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

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Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12124 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: TX
cryingdaily
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know. I'm not one to put my feelings out in public or social media. In fact, my kids were the ones that posted it on FB. I still haven't. I'm way too private and guarded for all that. Some of that might also be fear based. I'm afraid if I put it out there, something will happen and I'll have to take it all back.

I know, crazy right?

But I do feel safe enough here to tell you all where I'm at. Cuz I love you guys.

[This message edited by cryingdaily at 8:12 PM, May 1st (Thursday)]


Me: BS 48
Him: Doesn't matter any more.
The Royal Court, formerly known as the Princess Posse:
DD31 - Belle
DD23 - Xena
GD10 - Jasmine
GD8 - Ariel
GD Born 9/4/12 - Tink
GS Born 6/23/2014 - Little Prince

Posts: 14394 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: Massachusetts
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats! So happy for you.


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Posts: 7427 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!!!
(ps - GORGEOUS ring)


You can call me NIK

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- Plato


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!!!

Super happy for you!

GORGEOUS ring!

AJ'S MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21032 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
TrustedHer
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Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

Posts: 5116 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 10:41 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is so wonderful! Congratulations


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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