So I have decided to insist that he write the letter but that I will hold onto it. I still want it written.
We didn't know about NC letters after d-day as we didn't find SI until 8 months after d-day. By the time we found out about NC letters, OW had left us alone for almost a year, so we didn't send one as we didn't want to stir OW up. However, OW did attempt contact after a year of *crickets*. We finally had to send a NC letter. It has been almost 2 years now and, unless the hang up calls are OW, we haven't been bothered since.
Remember, you can always change your mind later and have a NC letter sent at that time.
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
B/c again his reasoning doesnt add up.
I do say, that sending a NC letter months down the road after a significant period of NC served no good purpose. It should always be sent timely.