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User Topic: Small Victories
krsplat
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, May 2nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I walked in on my WH and OW on a Wednesday two months ago. Every Wednesday since then has been a nightmare of slo-mo flashbacks, triggers and tears. I've taken many of those days off work since I was so dysfunctional.

Two days ago, after a long, healing conversation and some actual pleasure in each other's company, my WH looked at me at the end of the day and said, "Do you realize that today was Wednesday?" I hadn't thought about it until he said it.

It's a baby step, I grant you, but still a step. Today I have hope that I might not be trapped in hell forever.


Me & WH: 48, married 22 years, 4 kids
DDay: 3/5/14, 7 yr LTA plus multiple ONS
Status: Back on the coaster. Who knows?

Posts: 339 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Virginia
CantSeeInTheDark
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Default  Posted: 9:51 AM, May 2nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Krsplat))

I wish you many more baby steps


Me 35y
Him 48y
1 Awesome son 3y

DD1 May 2013
DD2 April 2014

Currently wondering how someone who vowed so much, can care so little


Posts: 110 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Gloucestershire
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, May 2nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

each step no matter how small gets you closer to victory.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8447 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
norabird
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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, May 2nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((krsplat))))

It's so wonderful to realize healing is possible.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4147 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Skan
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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, May 2nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Small steps, sistah, will get you down that path to recovery. Keep walking!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4795 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
nekorb
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Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, May 2nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad you are moving forward! Every little bit counts.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
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