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User Topic: Just received counter-offer- please talk me down!
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, May 3rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We aren't using a mediator. Just us and the attorneys. So I'm thinking the separate room thing isn't an option?

My L has told his in no uncertain terms that she needs to control WH during this meeting. I think if that doesn't happen, my L will step in and handle the situation. He isn't afraid of WH's anger like I am!

I just want it to be done. You know? I think the worst part about this, for me AND for WH, is that neither of us knows what it will look like in the end, what we will be able to afford, etc.

Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, May 3rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just worked out post decree motions filed by NPDx to modify everything possible.

I asked for separate rooms. The lawyers would talk out in the hall. Then my lawyer would present the offer to me and he and I would work out a counter.

I refuse to be in the same room with NPDx.

We also did the mediator too (before having the lawyers work it out) because it was required. NPDx doeasn't negotiate. So that was extremely expensive and just as effective as nailing jello to the wall.

[This message edited by Chrysalis123 at 1:33 PM, May 3rd (Saturday)]

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Default  Posted: 4:14 PM, May 3rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I totally understand your anger and frustration.

My STBX's attorney made the first MSA offer. It took me a bit by surprise because STBXH and I had already agreed to terms verbally, and their MSA was not what we had talked about. So I'm having my attorney counter with our end position (basically what we had agreed on via email). It is also less than what I could reasonably expect at trial.

I don't want to waste time and fees going back and forth. If DipShit lets his lawyer run up fees by trying to renegotiate, I'm gonna play hardball. I will not give anything on future offers, and just ask for more, starting with attorney's fees. If he wants to take it to trial, fine. I'll probably end up with more than we're proposing, but I just want to be finished with it.

Yeah, it's business. Still doesn't mean it can't piss you off. Just let the attorney be the bad guy.

Edited to correct stupid typos.

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

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