A huge leap of faith in my WH. His EA was on Facebook. He deactivated his Facebook account 3 days after D-day. I told him last night that in order for me to allow him to gain his trust back, I have to allow myself to be vulnerable again and allow him to prove himself to me. So, I told him that he can activate his Facebook account again, but that I have a few conditions.
1) Total Transparency - Access to his account
2) Any Messages sent or received he needs to tell me about
3) Unfriend all females that are not family members
4) NO messages are to be deleted
He already gave me his login info and unfriended all non family females.
I told him that I have come to the point that I am comfortable with the idea of being a single mom if he fucks up again, we're done for good! No Exceptions! He says he completely understands and appreciates me allowing him to prove himself to me and says that he will never betray me again. I said I sure hope you don't, I love you and want to trust you again. So I'm giving you the rope, it's up to you how you handle the rope or if you choose to hang yourself (so to speak).