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User Topic: 'who the hell thinks like that?'
painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BBT - I think it's interesting that people can have a variety of backgrounds, and end up in different places. There are some BSs that have childhoods that make a horror movie look like a cake walk, and some WSs that have childhoods that mirror Mary Poppins. I've never trusted anyone, most likely due to my own childhood items. Yet, something about my WS make me trust him completely. Others simply can't trust. For me, once I trust someone, I have a very difficult time with forgiveness. Others never get there as they simply can't get to the trust phase, so there's no forgiveness required.

Definitely interesting stuff!! Thanks for sharing all of it. :)


The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends

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Actionsoverwords
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Default  Posted: 8:13 PM, May 7th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi, everyone,

I just re-read the thread and wanted to add a few thoughts that I had. I had an ideal in my head about what the perfect relationship was for me, but there were times I got exactly what I wanted and I ran in the opposite direction. I would lust after other people's possessions and lives, but never realizing that the grass is always greener when you are on the other side of the fence looking in.

It is something I struggle tremendously with as a WH and a SA. I think there is something inherently embedded in my psyche (and maybe the psyche of men and women who choose to step out of on their partner) that I am always searching for validation, always thinking that whatever I have is perfect until something "happens" (I make a decision because I am bored, looking for justification, etc.) then I am looking for the next perfect thing.

I just realized that cheating and doing whatever to get ahead was acceptable in certain situations in my family. Our choices are our choices, but they were shaped by someone and some things.


Me: WH, 30's
Her : BW, 30's, (determinata)
Children: An amazing son.
I am a sex addict, working on myself, and facing the wreckage of my actions.



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