Well, I went on a mini vacation, just to get away from it all, visted my best friend in another state to celebrate my grades and getting the long needed break from my chaos. All I had to pay for was my gas and food, which basically the whole vacation cost about $200.
Now mind you, it was glorious, NOT ONE TEXT nothing the whole time I was gone. Well thanks to FB, I have him blocked but forgot...just because I deleted him, doesn't mean everyone did, he found out. I get the pity text "Must be nice to take a trip to PA, I guess I cannot ask you for help with getting the bills paid" All I responded was "if you would like to ask me to help, you need to call me like a normal human being."
I hate the fact that I am living in constant stress of what will be shut off next. The only way anything gets resolved, is if I call his mommy or stepdaddy and then shit gets done. My son and I are scraping up money for our phones and cable not to be shut off, I know I will have to save for my car note.
It just amazes me, how he has just abandoned all his responsibilities and here I am saving him again. How is this fair to me? How is it fair that my son has to help pay his parents bills? I cannot believe after being with someone for 23 years, he is a complete stranger...someone I am beginning to hate, because he can do all that he wants to me...but now his children are suffering and how is that fair??
Thanks for reading, just needed to vent, off to work my waitressing job...hopefully we will be busy so I can get all the bills paid. STRESSED TO THE MAX!
He was already ordered status quo and is responsible for all the bills.
If he is legally required to do it it is his problem. I'd take him to court and make sure to seek costs because he is in violation.
It stops when you say it stops.
The stress must be Unbelieveable - do not add to your burden to help him out. FTG. He doesn't get to remark on your life anymore BTW. I'd ignore any reference he makes to it. You don't have to justify or defend yourself to him. If it comes done to it you have more than you need to prove yourself to a judge.
This guy just doesn't matter anymore. Repeat until it sticks.
Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.
I'm confused. You say he is kicked out yet you are worried about "saving him"? Why? If you are separated, then your focus should be on YOU. You say that you and your son are scraping up money for phones and cable so why are you even considering helping stbx? You are right ... it is not fair to you so choose to not make it your responsibility because he isn't your responsibility any more.
Crickets would probably have been the best response to his text but if it was me, I would have texted "It was glorious!"
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
I am keeping track of every penny I pay out. I will get that back. I cannot even find out what is due, to whom and by when, he has gotten all the bills from the mail. Just like GonnaBe said, it's stressing every time I switch on the light...I just want the divorce, so if I am struggling, it's because of me...and not him anymore!
Going out now to have a few drinks with the ladies from work...it's beautiful out and I now have a little time for life, now that school is done until August
Him going to jail, would be useless to me...need him working, ya know.
Why would he be motivated to do anything when you or his mummy save him every time?
[This message edited by SBB at 12:54 AM, May 11th (Sunday)]
I am a true believer in Karma...he's digging his own grave. I just want this chapter closed, I am not hanging on to this man, I want whatever I am going to get out of this 17 years of hell. I am just physically and emotionally drained from the drama this waste of my airspace creates for me and my children. The newest rumor is, if he doesn't keep his job...he will kick the kids out of the house (they were staying with the house basically) and rent it out.
Supposedly he starts with a roofing company today and needs to come to the house for tools. Lucky me, my day off and I get to see him yea...smell the sarcasm?!?!