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Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, May 10th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sistermilkshake - I love your name! Some of you others have some really creative ones as well!

Mine was just the first thing that came to mind when I signed up...followed by my birth year!

Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 31
WBF: 27
Together 7 years
1 doggie
DDay: June 24, 2013
IN R...

Posts: 565 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, May 10th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

lovehonorcherish...the promise I made the day I married and a promise I intended to keep for the rest of my life. Life and the WH had other plans for me though...

I am no longer accepting the things I cannot change...I am changing the things I cannot accept.

Posts: 125 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Northeastern US
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Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, May 10th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My s I name is what's it is I am broken and I love sunflowers

me 33
him 32
6 wonderful kids 12 yrs 8 yrs 5 yrs 4 yrs and 2 yrs ..and new baby
married 10 years together for 12 yrs
working on R

my give a damn is busted

Posts: 225 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: cold ohio
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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, May 10th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I tried my initials: pas. I wasn't allowed that one, so I just threw the other s on the end. I recently decided to capitalize the first letter. After some work with my shrink, I've decided that I'm a real person too - and real people have a capital letter at the beginning of their name!

Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous

Posts: 2089 | Registered: Jan 2013
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Default  Posted: 6:26 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My name is inspired by Othello. My inner lit major often references Shakespeare in response to major life events. Either that or The Simpsons, but the Othello reference felt more appropriate thematically

Posts: 39 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: East Coast
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Default  Posted: 6:38 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

mine is purposely anonymous. it has no connection with anything. my name isn't Mike. But I like the name Mike, perhaps because of the Archangle.

[This message edited by mike7 at 6:39 AM, May 11th (Sunday)]

BH 53
WW 52
Two kids 21, 18

DDay 1/15/2013

Posts: 542 | Registered: Mar 2013
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Default  Posted: 6:51 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Still mad, still somewhat sad, but I was never alone. Just didn't realize that at time.

Me: BS 47
Him:WH 55
M: 27 yrs
DD 4/29/13
3 kids (25,23,22

Posts: 82 | Registered: May 2013
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Default  Posted: 6:56 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Came home to a note on the bed and an empty closet.

1 month later she filed

2 months after that we were divorced

1 month after that she left the state and moved back to her hometown.

1 month after that she finally told me about the A that I never knew had happened and we decided to reconcile.

1 month after that we got remarried on what would have been our 23rd anniversary.

In six and half months I experienced her leaving, filing, divorcing, moving, a belated D-Day and remarriage.

It wasn't until almost a year later that I found SI and I was looking at how fast that all went and thought Warp Speed.

[This message edited by WarpSpeed at 6:57 AM, May 11th (Sunday)]

Me: BS (51)
Her: fWW (50)
Married 27 years
Two sons in college
Empty closet and note on bed Jan 2010, She filed for D Mar 2010, D final May 2010, Actually had D-Day and found out why it all happened July 2010. Remarried on 23rd Anniv Aug 2010

Posts: 1498 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Dallas
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Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not a mom- willie is my much loved welsh corgi. I was trying to be anonymous.

However, my brother became a victim of infidelity about a year after me, so I told him about SI.

An hour later, he called me and said " you're willies mom, right?"

So much for anonymous.....

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7765 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
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Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mines pretty obvious. I joined on my d day...(I think?) I never thought about long term.

On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014

Posts: 536 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Land down under
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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't want to be stuck with "bawlingmyfrickin'eyesout,can'timaginelifegettingbetter,IneedtobewithhimorI'lldie" forever.

I'm pretty sure I tried that name and it was taken.

My memory of that time is vague but I remember really struggling to find a name that wasn't already taken. I'm pretty sure the first name I tried was IJustCantFuckingBelieveIt!!

I think it actually delayed my registration for a while. I lurked for almost 2 months before posting only a few days before the start of False R. Anyone who knows me IRL would most likely recognise me by my posts.

I came up with StrongButBroken and it was accepted! It ended up being quite a fitting name. I am incredibly strong and incredibly broken all at the same time. I'm a lot less broken these days. Still not yet unbroken though.

I changed it to SBB a while ago because the old name didn't feel like it fit anymore. I wasn't keen on a full name change and SBB can be anything I'd like it to be. Right now I'm feeling Strong Bolshy Brave.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

During TT my H kept saying me he was sooooo "Lucky to have me"... Maybe there should have been a ? at the end of the name because when I came here I sure didn't feel lucky.

But the name fits still to this day

Sister - Your name always makes the song "Sister Christian" run through my mind

Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

Posts: 6556 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
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Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was feeling kind of Bolshy last night!
I start talking in cursive when that happens.

Posts: 6644 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Started to write out why it hurts so much to be in GA. The list is long and depressing. Suffice it to say that since I've moved to GA I've gotten beat up a bunch and it seems to be continuing. Maybe I need to change my name to something like Satisfied in the south or happy in the hills or something like that to give me some good Karma.

"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie

Posts: 3432 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
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Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Zayda is my dog's name. Zayda is Yiddish for Grandfather. I am not Jewish and my dog is female...we named her that because we liked the name (saw it on a dog we wanted to rescue from the pound).

It also is a reminder that OW is an idiot. I remember taking out kids to the park for a playdate and I asked her to walk my dog because I was having an issue with my youngest child and needed my hands free. OW didn't know how to walk a dog. She looked like an idiot because my 25 pound dog was in total control and kept trying to run away from her. Makes me laugh when I think about how much my dog hated her.

Married 9 years, together for 11 years
2 children (7 years & 4 years)
Discovery of PA 04/15/12 (It only lasted a "couple of weeks" but it still shattered my world.)

Posts: 465 | Registered: Apr 2012
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Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like river phoenix, but that's a tragic name. To honor him I reversed the nouns. I like the implication of resurrection as well.

Me: xBetrayedBF (xBBF)
Her: xWaywardGF (xWGF)
TT: 12/21/12
Splitsville: 1/6/13
DDay: 7/20/13
Done: 8/16/14
"Nobody knows anybody...not that well." Tom Reagan, "Miller's Crossing"

Posts: 139 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: New Orleans, LA
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Default  Posted: 8:46 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My first name was one that was quick and easy--and easily identified me to OW, who liked to join my husband in harvesting my pain as evidence of how horrible I was as a wife.

So I picked another. Mine means, "I stand alone." It fits.

BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8843 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine is from the Cranberries song, Daffodil Lament.

When I came here, I was looking for answers to help me see my clear path. Right now it's clear as mud. But for some reason I have always thought-for years when listening to the song, that my relationship with WH would end in this sort of way. That I would be able to one day decide to see the daffodils instead of continuing to hang on. Those thoughts go back to the beginning of our relationship. Before As, even when we were just starting. Did I always know he wasn't right for me? I just thought it was natural/normal to continually doubt a relationship. I now think I was most likely wrong about that.

BS me 49
WS 42
OW easy NSA he says he told he was single
9 mo A
DDay 1/3/14
TT 2 wks later
still waiting for the rest
Married 11 yrs
Together 20
In house S, Divorcing

Posts: 74 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Southeast US
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Since the trauma of finding out, my hands (especially my thumbs but sometimes all of my fingers) twitch and shake. My right eye twiches and spasms. My right leg shakes and bounces uncontrollably.

Plus i like that my name has "witch" in it. For some odd reason that makes me smile.

[This message edited by twitching at 12:25 PM, May 11th (Sunday)]

"My heart was broken and my head was just barely inhabitable. " - Anne Lamont

Posts: 128 | Registered: Feb 2014
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Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Totally roundabout riff on what XH used to call me.

My original name would have been a dead giveaway, so I had to change it when XH was stalking me on a diff site. He'd never make the connection that it was me.

Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
Everything is as it should be.

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