Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying



Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library


Contact Us
In Association with
Infidelity -
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
Newest Member: Questiounanswere (45696)

New Beginnings Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: for those at least a year out from D: how have you grown?
♀ Member
Member # 39551
Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Should pin this in the D forum/ auto-bump it always.

Posts: 556 | Registered: Jun 2013
♀ Member
Member # 33523
Default  Posted: 1:13 PM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Founded & captain an 8 ball team

Looking to buy another house (never thought I'd be able to do that!!!)

Stepped way, way, way outside my comfort zone

Have made so many wonderful new friends

Deepened bonds with old friends

Dropped friends that were dragging me down

Trying to go back to school for the ultimate career change

Become even more hopeful, optimistic

And ... the biggie (or most fun at the moment ) enjoying the dance of getting sexy crush to ask me out

Hey, it's been 3 years on that damn bus. I think my stop is coming up!

Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 773 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
♀ Member
Member # 27035
Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm 3 1/2 years out.

I am more confident in my own abilities both at work and at home.

I have a closer, grown-up relationship with my three kids. They are full-on grown-ups now and I'm so proud of them all. I did a great job with them, as it turns out, never mind all the doubts along the way. I love them and I like them too.

I just about never dwell on what happened to me - the infidelity, the lying, the abandonment, the divorce. Boy, that took a lonnnnggggg time. I can talk about the past (pre-infidelity) without all the sadness or anger overwhelming me. It's just the past.

I've been downsizing and it's been liberating. I thought it would be sadder, but it's not. The marital home was sold really quickly and I was the one left clearing out the house. Being in no shape to sort through stuff, I just moved a lot of it with me. Now I'm going through everything and wondering why on earth I've been hauling it around with me for 3 1/2 years!

"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5336 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
♀ Member
Member # 19258
Default  Posted: 10:40 PM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

oh holy cow I'm 6 years out.

I had a long thoughtful post in mind but really its simple now.

I continue to grow and change because I like to. 6 years later... my life, nearly ever aspect of it including the ways I grow, has nothing to do with the D. And that is the most important way that I've grown.

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler

Posts: 8489 | Registered: Apr 2008
Topic Posts: 24
Pages: 1 · 2

Return to Forum: New Beginnings Post Reply to this Topic
Go to :
© 2002 - 2014 All Rights Reserved.