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Linus1968
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, I know a lot of WS lie and lie and lie, and we all know that...but, after this story, I am still shaking my head...
BACK STORY ALERT!!!
As you might remember, WW called D 11 May 2010, got pregnant, moved in, had the baby. Said 6 or 7 times, "we need to get this paperwork going". With pen in hand, "Ok". Not one sheet of paperwork. Last year, I started to ask for paperwork, so I could do it. Nothing. This year, hired a lawyer, got the papers drawn, she signed them, and I am the one who filed.
I am helping a friend with a DJ jig he had yesterday. We belong to the same church, so all the character are in the same congregation. A couple of months again, My STBX-FIL told a leader in my congregation, let's call him Bob (I know him well, also), that someone needs to talk to me to stop holding on to this marriage and dragging my feet, and sign the papers and get it over with. Bob told two of my close friends (one being the DJ). They went off on him, not blaming him or a mean way, just did it to correct him, because they knew the truth.
So, my X-FIL thinks I am the one dragging my feet. WHY?!?!?! Lieing usually is don't to save face. She has none to save. I could not believe she is telling people I am the one dragging this out.
I am kind of thinking the good ole' dad asked about the OM and WW getting married. I don't think the OM wants to, and WW knows that, but wants to keep dad happy, so it can't be her fault, so "it's Linus' fault".
I just could not believe it. Who else thinks it is me? And WHY would the FIL believe her. She left, had multiple affairs, moved in before the divorce was over (or even started), had a baby. I stayed strong in the church, have not dated anyone, bring my children (their grandkids) to temple trips, church history sites, and have a trip to Salt Lake. His daughter says "Linus is delaying" and he buys it???? But, I know his ways (12 years of marriage), and he nor his family are ever wrong.
Anyway, I can't believe he thought it was me. My DJ friend did not know if Bob went back to X-FIL to fill him it the facts of the case. Crazy...

You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact


Me: Me
Her: Multiple men, multiple times, OC with the latest one
S: 16, D:14
May 27, 2014 DIVORCED!!!
In the words of Dory "Whew, I'm glad I got that off my chest."

Posts: 238 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Hell, and my X is the mayor (FL)
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The blame shifting is brutal and frustrating isn't it?

I figure there will always be folks on "his side" that think it's all my fault. I can't do anything about it. I try to defer to my therapist at all times as to whether or not my behavior is appropriate or if I need to do something differently. As long as she says I'm doing it "right", I don't care what anyone else thinks.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 5:42 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ex-shat tells some real whoppers about me. And it's *only* 2.5 years past D-day...1.5 past D.

I get such a kick out of them. My all time favorite was "I had no choice but to get out of the marriage, Tesla was driving me to commit suicide." And he was dead serious.

I tell you this because she will continue to lie about you...probably forever. Someday you won't care...hell, you may even get a chuckle out of them.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Linus1968
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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, hey everyone, I did laugh. It is the same pattern that my X-FIL and WW follow. Lie to dodge a bullet, or blame someone else when their butts are in the fire. It's just crazy and fun to see her continue to build this house of cards that she herself keeps sneezing on.
I will say there is just a little animosity for her saying it is my fault. There has only been a few times in my life were someone tried to throw me under the bus. It pisses me off.
Knowing the FIL, if I told him the truth and reveal the text messages of me asking for info and paperwork, he would still try to spin it.
When my friend was telling me, I would just laugh and shake my head. The truth will come out, and she will fall, and he will look like a fool defending her without looking into the reality of the situation.
Remember, the truth shall set you feel.
I just wonder what will be her next excuse. I will not be there to blame in a few weeks. The papers are in the court system now. There is a 20 business day waiting period in FL for non-contested cases. I was hoping to be free by my birthday (falls on Memorial Day this year), but 20 days will fall on the Friday before, and Memorial Day being a holiday, nothing governmental will move.
Another note, toady was 4 years since SHE call divorce.
That is the one thing I don't get. She has nothing to hide to not make her look bad. Why wait? Why did I have to get it done? So weird.
I am still chuckling as I type. WOW!!!

You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact

[This message edited by Linus1968 at 6:45 PM, May 11th (Sunday)]


Me: Me
Her: Multiple men, multiple times, OC with the latest one
S: 16, D:14
May 27, 2014 DIVORCED!!!
In the words of Dory "Whew, I'm glad I got that off my chest."

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Linus1968
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, May 12th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One other thing is when this situation started, the FIL said he did not want to meet the OM until our divorce was final. I found out that the OM helped do some major house work on the FIL's place (the OM is a AC guy, and he helped in some plumbing stuff). FIL is probably loving it, being I am not that trained in that, and the OM is more apt in that field. But, yet feels guilty loving it, because his daughter is still married to another man, ME. So when ask the X when will it be over, and she blamed me. I would love to see his face if I could tell him it is not me, and show the proof.

Hopefully, in 2 weeks or so, it will be over...

You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact


Me: Me
Her: Multiple men, multiple times, OC with the latest one
S: 16, D:14
May 27, 2014 DIVORCED!!!
In the words of Dory "Whew, I'm glad I got that off my chest."

Posts: 238 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Hell, and my X is the mayor (FL)
SBB
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Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, May 12th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Knowing the FIL, if I told him the truth and reveal the text messages of me asking for info and paperwork, he would still try to spin it.

^^THIS is the truth. I don't care to correct anyone. IMO anyone who believes his bullshit without asking me about it isn't worthy of my friendship. So no loss there.

You need to break your give-a-fuck here friend. I used to hate is just as much but it really doesn't bother me anymore. I find it laughable and I pity him that he needs a false construct. In his quiet moments the truth seeps into his brain and makes him feel like shit about himself and will do so forever. I pity him that.

My quiet moments are filled with joy. I'm in a happy place and happy seeps into my brain during my quiet moments. "I'm free" is the theme.

You're almost free. Don't try to work out what she said or why - I would stop letting people tell you stuff. NC includes info about them. She doesn't matter anymore. You'd be better off not even knowing this stuff. What good comes from it? You KNOW what they all are - I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is, I already have plenty thanks very much.

I assume anyone who maintains a relationship with him is going to believe some of his bullshit or is fucked up in the same way he is. They are tarred with the same brush as people I don't want or need in my life.

Let it go. I promise being free feels way better than righting a wrong committed in that swamp over there. You don't want to get swamp sludge on you. Even just by proxy.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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Linus1968
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Default  Posted: 4:33 AM, May 13th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SBB, you are right. And slowly, I don't care. From the first days of digging up any dirt on her, I was obsessed with what was said, what she is doing, who is with me and against me. I haven't talked to them on a regular bases since about 6 months out. They, both FIL and MIL, made comments about me and my family to me, and that is when I was done. MIL asked about the divorce and why it has not happened. The FIL and I were in a heavy discussion, and when I asked a direct point about his daughter, he switch it to my daughter needs a talking to about her attitude toward her mother.

At any rate, I almost don't care. This story made me shake my head and laugh. He will believe anything that will boost his family, and make it look my fault.

I saw him at church after I found out (this weekend), and it didn't bother me. In fact, I wish X-MIL a happy Mother's Day, which felt odd, but I am trying to be the bigger person.

So, I am almost there. I still thinks it is funny she has to lie to save face, and he just sucks it up like it is fact, though. Both feeding off each other.
Thanks for the support.

As I said, about 2 weeks.

You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact


Me: Me
Her: Multiple men, multiple times, OC with the latest one
S: 16, D:14
May 27, 2014 DIVORCED!!!
In the words of Dory "Whew, I'm glad I got that off my chest."

Posts: 238 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Hell, and my X is the mayor (FL)
Linus1968
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Default  Posted: 5:23 AM, May 13th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had one point. Had to get my son going for school.

I feel good that I don't have to lie. And never have I ever had to lie. Still after 4 years of separation, she still has to. It is just a testiment that this was not my fault. I don't have to hang my head. And anyone who knows me knows it is not my fault.

Thanks everyone for reading.

You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact


Me: Me
Her: Multiple men, multiple times, OC with the latest one
S: 16, D:14
May 27, 2014 DIVORCED!!!
In the words of Dory "Whew, I'm glad I got that off my chest."

Posts: 238 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Hell, and my X is the mayor (FL)
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, May 13th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just cause I've wanted to get this out anyway, want to see some lying bullshit? Found in his deleted texts, after catching him in yet another lie:

ME: Look, its fine. You will get over it. I will get over it. Just get some help and focus on being a dad. You can't have me any more.

EX: No. Fuck u ...u lying c*nt. I'm over ur bullshit and lies too.

ME: Fine. FOCUS ON THE KIDS NOW.

EX: I've hated you for 9 years. Lol ..for ur info i didn't lie to u today..and i know for a fact u cheated on me good Christian

Not even 30 seconds later, EX to OTHER WOMAN: Yeah well i didn't lie to her today and she insists i did...she really fucked me up and now i can't c the kids.

Really?!? I JUST told him to focus on the kids! And he's telling OW ALREADY that I'm keeping them from him?!?

Seriously, there's pages of this, bashing me, telling me how it's my fault we aren't working out and I'm an idiot for not believing him, then telling me how I should forgive him and take him back since I have it all wrong, WHILE HE'S TEXTING THE FUCKING OW THE ENTIRE TIME, completely lying about what him and I are talking about.

Thank GOD that douche is not my problem anymore. Good luck OW! I've got better things to do than worry about what bullshit that lying sack of shit is coming up with at the moment!

And guess what Linus? It matters NOT if she's still lying about you. Surround yourself with supportive people and let everyone else think whatever the hell they want..

And just to make you feel better, it was "all my fault" the divorce took so long too. I can't tell you how many emails I sent trying to get him to come to some decisions with me. There are hundreds, but it basically went something like:

ME: So how about holidays? You want to do something like every other year for their birthdays, or somehow splitting their birthdays in half and both seeing them every year?

HIM: Fuck you for delaying this divorce you bitch! Just get over it already! I don't love you anymore!

ME: Uhhhhhhhh,


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

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Linus1968
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, May 13th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Butterfly, thanks. The people that do matter to me know the truth. As in the case of my 2 friends, and they defended me, which make me glad and proud I am their friend.

And to be honest, I am actually happy she waited. I was asking Feb 2013 for paperwork so I can do it. She never gave it to me. Well, life swung a wrench at me, and had to lose focus for a time (a melanoma scare (we got it out before massive damage), car crapped out several times then died, my son's grades were down. A few other minor things, but survived it all). I was trying to get money built up, but all these thing took from my potential lawyer money. Well, when the dust settled in late Oct, I figured just use tax money, and get the lawyer. Funny, I think I mentioned this before, when I said I had a lawyer, I got the info really quick.

Sorry, back to my original comment, I am glad she did not file. I was such a good feeling to me that I did it, that I had progressed past the hurt and stupidity of it all and did it. It gave me self confidence. I hope that make sense. That I did not need her help.

And when she lies, it just give me a good feeling of I don't have to lie, and a testament I did the right thing.

Thanks everyone.

Almost done...2 weeks...

You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact


Me: Me
Her: Multiple men, multiple times, OC with the latest one
S: 16, D:14
May 27, 2014 DIVORCED!!!
In the words of Dory "Whew, I'm glad I got that off my chest."

Posts: 238 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Hell, and my X is the mayor (FL)
SBB
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Default  Posted: 10:41 PM, May 13th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i didn't lie to her today

It must be so hard to not be believed when you're a lying douchebag.

t/j BG, I'm glad you have all of that in writing. Nothing like a tangible reminder. If I didn't have the proof myself I'd be doubting the detail. I can't believe he said that shit to you. What a fuckwit, seriously.
End t/j

@Linus, given you don't have to waste so much time lying to everyone and yourself you're going to heal in leaps and bounds. You have your self respect and your integrity. You win.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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Default  Posted: 11:23 PM, May 13th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I honestly believe they are pathological, they cannot tell the truth because they believe in their fantasy world.

BG- I am sorry-but those texts are real winners, reminds me of my ex.

I needed the reminder how bad their lying habits are entrenched.


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Linus1968
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Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Butterfly, I think it is funny that they have to point out when they did something that should be human nature. "I did not lie to you today." "Yesterday I did, and tomorrow I can't promise you anything, but today, Yeah me! I did not lie."
"Hey, today, I didn't shoot anyone in the head, or kick a walking stroller out from under an old person, or slap an infant, or commit adultery. I am so proud of myself. Look at me. I am a good guy today..." Yep, you made good choice today. You are a saint. I am proud of you.
And he kept trying to spin in. "Just focus on the kids and be a good dad" "Yeah, well you suck..." WHAT??? I know that is exactly what my X-FIL would do. You state a fact, and in an elementary schoolyard fashion, he would just spew out some "yeah, well you smell" answer.

SBB, I know I won. She is the one who has lost no matter the outcome. Integrity is one of those things we have that comes from our own actions. We have total control of it. If you lose it, it was your fault, and no outside force dictating it. I hope that makes sense.

You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact

[This message edited by Linus1968 at 7:48 AM, May 14th (Wednesday)]


Me: Me
Her: Multiple men, multiple times, OC with the latest one
S: 16, D:14
May 27, 2014 DIVORCED!!!
In the words of Dory "Whew, I'm glad I got that off my chest."

Posts: 238 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Hell, and my X is the mayor (FL)
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

t/j

BG, I'm glad you have all of that in writing. Nothing like a tangible reminder. If I didn't have the proof myself I'd be doubting the detail. I can't believe he said that shit to you. What a fuckwit, seriously.

Holy cow, yes! If I had never received all that information, who knows how much more he could have snowed me. As the cheating came to a shock to me, there would probably have been no end to me believing the crap that came out of his mouth. Thank goodness I used my head instead of my heart!

And yes, anytime I need a reminder, pulling up those exchanges ALWAYS brings me back to reality and reminds me that the man I married is dead and long gone.. And that this new one is a COMPLETE fucking moron..

When it's recommended to keep a list of all the things you hate about your ex to keep your resolve, those exchanges are it for me. Nothing else needed..

You state a fact, and in an elementary schoolyard fashion, he would just spew out some "yeah, well you smell" answer.

Couldn't have said it better myself. I can just hear his mind running a mile a minute, "DEFCON 5 guys, she caught me! Quick! Somebody grab me a deflection, any deflection! No WAY I'm owning up to this!" And his dim-witted brain responds with, "Oh yeah? Well you smell. And for your information, I haven't talked to OW in at least 5 minutes while I've been standing here, so nanny nanny boo boo! I was right, and YOU'RE WRONG!"


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love seeing that everyone eventually learns the tune of a WS here...

They lie. They cheat, and they lie some more. Lather, rinse, repeat!

And SBB said it so right-- they know, in those dark quiet moments in the night, what they have done to their families and the ones who loved them so much. They know.

And, like SBB, I can live the rest of my life knowing that I was not, and AM not the lying bitch he tries to get everyone to believe. He even has his whore trying to convince her children that I lied about the assault and his arrest!

Yeah, because I made all that up, set him up and found strangers who witnessed it all to lie to the police for me. cause THAT sounds way more believe able than "he assaulted me" right??

Crazies. I swear!


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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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Linus1968
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Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Butterfly the "nanny nanny boo boo" reminded me of this from the Matilda:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uhFllQJdxjs
He does not say nanny nanny boo boo, but when caught with a fact, the schoolyard mentality oozed out...

[This message edited by Linus1968 at 10:26 AM, May 14th (Wednesday)]


Me: Me
Her: Multiple men, multiple times, OC with the latest one
S: 16, D:14
May 27, 2014 DIVORCED!!!
In the words of Dory "Whew, I'm glad I got that off my chest."

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^ Hee hee. I like when they make their lies and deflection so obvious. Can't even fool a little girl douchebag!

And then some of them take some time to think about it and start coming up with bullshit like, "Well, it depends on what your meaning of is is."

When you start realizing how ridiculous their words are, even though their body language seems normal, it's even more funny. Clinton said that shit with a straight face!


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

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Linus1968
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey Butterfly, another funny part is when they give their "Oh yeah, well you smell" remark, and you realize the saying "when you argue with a fool, pretty soon, people will not know who the fool is" and stop the conversation because your IQ is slipping with every syllable you utter to them, they then sit back in their emotional lounge chair with that smirk and their hands clasping behind their heads thinking "yep I got him/her. I'm the smart one."

That is how my FIL is. I could not tell you how many political/social/religious discussions I have gotten into with him were I just said to myself "stop". Then, his body language is all "yeah, I'm smarter". And that is long after everyone at the dinner table has left because dad and Linus are at it again. He throws out these unverifiable facts that were on the news the night before. It would not make sense, so I get all worked up, and get my "bring it on" frame of mind. One SIL (out of 7 kids) would be the only other one who would argue with him. "Dad, that is crazy".

My X was the same way to a point...This is why it does not surprise me with the FIL believing the X and running with that info...

Ok, I'll stop.

You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact

[This message edited by Linus1968 at 3:51 PM, May 14th (Wednesday)]


Me: Me
Her: Multiple men, multiple times, OC with the latest one
S: 16, D:14
May 27, 2014 DIVORCED!!!
In the words of Dory "Whew, I'm glad I got that off my chest."

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ButterflyGirl
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If I feel any smarter from this site, Linus, it was learning that lesson above ^^^^

What you described is exactly why "crickets" is probably the most-used phrase down here in D/S. You gotta shut the hell up and let these people hang themselves..

What's sad is I think a lot of cheaters are very skilled manipulators, and they know how to look calm while saying dreadful things.

Would a reasonable person let their blood pressure go up and try to correct the person saying awful things? Yes. UNLESS that reasonable person knows they are being sucked into a game, and that keeping their mouth closed and walking away is the best, most strategic move.

I'm pretty close to indifference, and my next goal is to not even allow my ex to get my blood pressure to rise. Not an easy one considering he's over $12,000 behind on child support and still tells the kids I "take all his money." But I like it better when the judge takes swings at him. I'll just sit back and watch, thinking to myself, "Yep. I got him. I'm the smart one."


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

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Linus1968
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is why I text EVERYTHING!!! First of all, I don't want to hear her voice. 2nd, I have an electronic paper trail. 3rd, when we were talking, she would manipulate me by talking in circles. And it would work for her. I was walking around in my emotional maze in circles, so it would not be hard for her to do. Now, I can see what she is doing in her statements as I read them. If it is stupid or none of her business, crickets.

On a t/j, she has only her my voice once since Nov 2010 (Saturday after Thanksgiving). That is when she told me she was pregnant. As I argued with her about how she left me to party, and now a new kid to ruin her new life, I got so mad, I hung up. She called back, and asked if we got cut off or if I hung up. I yelled, "I hung up!", and hung up again. The next time she heard my voice was in March 2014 when I said "Here you go" handing her the divorce agreement. It felt so good. Of course, when she was done, she had my daughter run it out to my car, playing post woman which is a no no. But rules are for the BSs only, correct?

You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact

[This message edited by Linus1968 at 8:29 PM, May 14th (Wednesday)]


Me: Me
Her: Multiple men, multiple times, OC with the latest one
S: 16, D:14
May 27, 2014 DIVORCED!!!
In the words of Dory "Whew, I'm glad I got that off my chest."

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