[This message edited by SI Staff at 10:26 PM, May 16th (Friday)]
Seriously, good luck, I hope it works out for you two.
Frankly, I think an EA is riskier and has the potential to create more of a problem in the M (most EA will eventually turn into PA). If evening the score has to be done in order for the M to survive, I'd rather my H hired a prostitute and just got it done and over. But that's just me.
As to poor communication skills making you and your M vulnerable to an affair, I hear you. I think it's great that you recognize the fact that you need help in this area of your M. Recognizing what made you vulnerable in the first place, and correcting these things, will go a long way in helping you remain true to yourself as well as your M.
[This message edited by sunnyrain at 6:27 PM, May 18th (Sunday)]
Thou shalt NOT.
"There would be no grand absolution, only forgiveness meted out in these precious sips. It would well up from his heart in spoonfuls, and he would feed it to me. And it would be enough."