To be perfectly honest, I would consider a change of scenery.
My husband is not particularly flirty himself, but has a terrible time recognizing when women are flirting with him, versus being nice and polite. But, he does not have a constant stream of women approaching him while he is out alone, or drunk slutty girls hanging all over him telling me that they arenít flirting even though they clearly are. Why? Because we have both made the choice not to hang out at bars alone. If he goes to the bar or somewhere for drinks, I am usually with him. If not me, then he is with a few friends (who are also married/in serious relationships and have good values). We donít stay til closing, we donít go to the club, and if there is someone looking drunk and single in the bar, we donít present ourselves as available. Iím not going to lie- changing our socializing habits has helped.
I leave my husband to deal with flirty women appropriately. While I donít want him to bitch slap anyone, he knows that he is to shut them down immediately by letting them know that he is married and unavailable.
The ONLY time that I handle flirty women is when the flirty woman is a waitress. And then I let her go. I will let her flirt with my husband right in front of me, touch him, giggle, whatever it is. He doesnít flirt back, and I generally say nothing. Then, towards the end of the meal, I ask to see her manager- where I explain the rude service I received. Both of us are customers, she blatantly ignored me and focused on my husband the entire time and flirted with him right in front of me. Whatís more- I pay and donít tip.
I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.
At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.
"Love means never having to say you're sorry."