Thank you for the support Breezy150 and simplydevastated.
Simplydevasted : Well I haven't posted for a long time and a lot had gone on since my last posts. Firstly we are awaiting further tests, results and examinations for WH as he's been rather ill for about 2 months now. His self diagnosis from the Internet is the awful "C".
In respect of the (ex?)EAP, as far as I'm aware, (ex?)AP and (ex?)WH don't correspond via technology any longer. They only see one another at work occasionally but unfortunately a couple of work collegues are mutual friends of both (ex?)AP and (ex?)WH and they still go out frequently together. This entails (ex?)WH staying out in a hotel as it's too far to travel especially after drinking.
The problem is that I want(ed) him to find new friends as these people are not "friends of our marriage" but he had decided that he would rather remain their friends and leave our marriage. I suppose he's made it clear! Just struggling today! Me: BS Married 10 years, together 20
Him:WH - EA with engaged COW.
'If you come into my life, the door is open; If you leave my life, the door is open; Just one request, don't stand in the doorway, you're blocking the traffic'