[This message edited by jjct at 8:03 PM, May 14th (Wednesday)]
i'd text her - the problem with you is you're selfish and hypocritical. You destroy DD's family by sneaking off and having an affair. You didn't inform me about it, you lied. And now you're upset that I got a dog. boo fucking hoo. Go away. I don't want you anymore and if I had my options I wouldn't have to talk to you anymore. I'm embarrassed that I chose you to be DD's mother.
This is the type of mentality you have to adopt. IF she asks a question, you cannot respond to her like a normal person, as her brain is leaning a little. You have to come back at her. HARD. or crickets. Explaining anything opens the door for her to talk to you and talking to you about anything is off the table because she is a person who stole from you. You would not talk to a person who mugged you,, so do not talk to her, she is worse than a mugger.
Also,,, my XWH is ALWAYS threatening some sort of legal action. It was F*****G hilarious when I had him served. I secretly went to an atty and it shocked the hell out of him. It shut him up for a while....now he's back at it again.
Be really strong.
Also, I when XWH really makes me mad, I go onto facebook and say how happy I am and how great my life is. I've heard it makes his gf (OW) really mad that I'm happy!!!
[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 8:38 PM, May 14th (Wednesday)]
me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
if not I vote CRICKETS!
5454real also had some great suggestions, beaufiul dog your DD will be thrilled!
adrianna1980 - can you please elaborate?
Actually, it is quite simple. Your current financial situation is quite challenging so it makes sense to divorce your wife now. The terms of your divorce aren't going to be so favorable if you decide to do it when you get your PhD and a well paying job.
Despite what your wife may say right now about getting a divorce, she isn't really too eager to do it right now because she cannot effectively take you to cleaners. For her, it is the best to wait until you get your PhD and a good job, and royally screw you then. Your wife may be a cheater but she isn't stupid. She will find a "creative" shark divorce attorney who will try to get the best financial terms for her. Of course, he will ask for a child support from you. No surprise here. You have a daughter and you must pay child support. I'm sure you have no problem with this part.
Now, the tricky part - alimony. I understand that you have some sort of a separation agreement signed by your wife but it doesn't matter much because her "creative" attorney will challenge it on the ground of being "grossly unfair" and have it thrown away. And then, he will argue that you earned your degree at cost of hardship of the whole family and now you are "all that and a bag of chips" PhD and your "left behind" wife is just a financially struggling teacher. The most likely outcome is that you will end up paying her alimony for at least a few years. Her extramarital sexcapades won't be a factor in any of that.
Oh, one more thing.... nice dog!
[This message edited by adriana1980 at 2:19 AM, May 15th (Thursday)]
Thank you all for the support and the encouragement of strength. I need it now more than ever, because my doctoral training must continue. I need to focus on my future and what's best for my daughter. I have a lot on my plate with 7 hours between my parents and I. Meanwhile, WW has OM, has our daughter more often, has family support, and is trying to hold things over my head. I am ready to move on.
Seriously...stick with crickets, and file. Then she can deal with your attorney.
Great dog...she's adorable!
Such as discussing zoo and theme park passes with you which you made a decision on your own about."
Chick is a control freak.
She cheats and blows up your family and she is concerned about theme park passes??? WT actual F?
Crickets is what she deserves.
The unbelievable audacity......sheesh!